Looking for some tips for taking on more responsibilities
Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2022 4:20 pm
Quick background, wife and I are in our early 30s, we've been playing these games for a while, and it switched to a more permanent lifestyle about a year ago. I love it, and so does she. She has really grown into the role as the dominant sexual partner in ways that I could only fantasize about a few years ago. She likes to be the one in control, I think it's surprising her how much she likes it.
I think she is a bit uncomfortable in that role outside the bedroom, however. That's fine, but I also think that her desire for control manifests in her wanting to do everything herself in order to make sure things are done exactly the way she wants them. She almost never accepts offered help. If she is overwhelmed with work and obligations, I'll offer to cook her weekly meals for her(she is a meal prep Sunday enthusiast), do the laundry, do the shopping etc. One aspect of this is kinky, it makes me feel good to do things for her. But I also make these offers from a place of empathy because, well, I love her and if I were in her position I would probably appreciate someone lightening the load. She refuses every time.
We've talked a little bit about it, but it hasn't led to any changes yet. One thing I have done is to just start doing things around the house without needing to be asked, which I suppose is a solution. We're both adults after all and I don't want to burden her by basically being a teenager that needs to be told to do his chores. It seems to please her, but she doesn't communicate very much how she feels about it.
I guess I'm making this thread to see if anyone could offer me some insight, or a better way to approach her when she genuinely needs help but won't accept it for next time I broach the subject. Thanks to all who read this, and cheers.
I think she is a bit uncomfortable in that role outside the bedroom, however. That's fine, but I also think that her desire for control manifests in her wanting to do everything herself in order to make sure things are done exactly the way she wants them. She almost never accepts offered help. If she is overwhelmed with work and obligations, I'll offer to cook her weekly meals for her(she is a meal prep Sunday enthusiast), do the laundry, do the shopping etc. One aspect of this is kinky, it makes me feel good to do things for her. But I also make these offers from a place of empathy because, well, I love her and if I were in her position I would probably appreciate someone lightening the load. She refuses every time.
We've talked a little bit about it, but it hasn't led to any changes yet. One thing I have done is to just start doing things around the house without needing to be asked, which I suppose is a solution. We're both adults after all and I don't want to burden her by basically being a teenager that needs to be told to do his chores. It seems to please her, but she doesn't communicate very much how she feels about it.
I guess I'm making this thread to see if anyone could offer me some insight, or a better way to approach her when she genuinely needs help but won't accept it for next time I broach the subject. Thanks to all who read this, and cheers.