Getting used to cum less and less often...

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Getting used to cum less and less often...

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I would to inquire the group about each one's experiences with the process of getting used to cum less and less often. How hard it was to accept an increasingly longer gap in between orgasms. What were your feelings and thoughts along the process. Thank you for elaborating on that.
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Prior to introducing chastity to M'Lady I was addicted to porn and masturbation. I indulged in self pleasure almost daily and sometimes more than once a day. That came to an abrupt end as my first lock down period was 30 days. I was basically informed that pain from attempted erections, nocturnal or otherwise, was my problem...deal with it.

The first couple of months were pure misery. As I adjusted to being confined M'Lady started teasing me just to remind me of my situation. What kept me going was the knowledge that this was being done at my request and not only for her but for our relationship which was in peril after 45 years. After 3 1/2 years in chastity I don't even think about it. Any release is strictly at the pleasure and discretion of my loving Mistress. My life is one of dedication, service and obedience to her.
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Hello Kitten.
Thank you very much for your response.
May I ask how many times did you approximately cum during this 3 and half years?
You mentioned that your first abstinent period was 30 days. Which was the longest abstinent period?
Was there a pattern of “gradually extending” the length of abstinent periods?
Thanks again.
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For me, I truly enjoy the tease and denial I receive when locked. I am usually allowed a ruined orgasm while still caged sometimes. But I gave come to enjoy being denied. Even when my wife has me unlock, I still don't get many orgasms, and they are only from masturbation or a hand job , no penetration
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NewYorkerLocked wrote: Sun Jan 16, 2022 1:50 pm Hello Kitten.
Thank you very much for your response.
May I ask how many times did you approximately cum during this 3 and half years?
You mentioned that your first abstinent period was 30 days. Which was the longest abstinent period?
Was there a pattern of “gradually extending” the length of abstinent periods?
Thanks again.
I keep a running log/report on my computer. I was first locked on June 30, 2018. That first time being cages was only 23 days. Since then I have been allowed to climax 13 times and two of them were ruined. The longest I have been denied was from a ruined orgasm New Year's morning last year until Dec 5th (339 days). To go back to the last time before that when I was allowed to actually cum add another 102 days to September 20, 2020.

I don't think I would call her denial increases 'gradual'. A couple of periods of 28 and 29 days then it jumped to 70. There have been some shorter periods but the average seems to be around 2 1/2 to 3 months. Of course between oral service, vibrators and me wearing a strap on my Mistress is never denied her orgasms when she wants them.
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Thank you guys for all your responses.

Scsteelerfan, you introduce a interesting topic, and that is the question about which we cum when allowed. You said that you do not penetrate your wife. Is that your choice? Hers? Mine lost interested in being penetrated years ago, she likes to (almost) monopolize orgasming in our bed.

KittensBoyToy, your experience is very similar to mine.You please your wife through non-penetrative means.
Also, you don't have "regular" intervals, etiher. Anyway, I praise you for your endurance! Almost a year without release. That's is wonderful. In my case, I the longest I was denied was 70 days. But except for that, my abstinence would range from 3 days to 3 weeks. After reading something about Taoism, according to my age, I am supposed to ejaculate no more than once every 40 days (although other sources state shorter intervals).

My wife and I discussed it and agreed on the "once-every-40-days", which is about 9 times in a year. Last was on January 10th, next will be not sooner than Februrary 20th.

Thanks again.
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Do you guys actually feel better, the less often you cum?
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I've reached a point where I don't even want an orgasm at all, so it's not a motivational factor for me in chastity. I would much rather be teased and DENIED every time. Ruins are okay, but full orgasms kinda disappoint me.
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I have to agree with you regarding not wanting an orgasm and being edged! When I cum I feel worse. Being in a constant state of arousal while I am either being edge or satisfying my key holder is amazing! Eventually I will be made to come and since she controls that and its if its makes her happy thats ok. Its just part of the journey
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Thanks again for your contributions.
It looks like after some time, not only we “get used” to orgasming less and less often, but also, we end up preferring not orgasming at all. At least that is what most of you are telling.
I am impressed.
Also, you guys mention some discomfort after orgasming. I can relate to that. When I was able to stay abstinent for 30 to 60 days, I did experience crankiness, cold alike symptoms, and lack of focus after ejaculating. I read there is something called POIS, Post Orgasmic Illness Syndrome. I am afraid it is what we are going through.
Now, I feel better about enduring male chastity, because aside of any “kink”, there are objective benefits. Not only for the romantic relationships we participate in, but also for ourselves, even if we are single.
One more reason for me to find a keyholder other than my wife and worrying less about a possible break up with her.
Your thoughts?
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