Fantasy vs Reality.

[Sennylover]

Is the fantasy of long term chastity and the reality of long term chastity different?
I love the idea of long term chastity but when I self locked using a postal keyholder ( the longest was 8 weeks ), my horniness just tapered off after about 2 weeks instead of building up as I had imagined it would.
Would this be different if my partner held the keys of is this just the reality of long term confinement?

[slave d]

i’m afraid that’s like asking how long is a piece of string ? It depends !! You will only find out your experience by experiencing it because we’re all different. i am permanently locked and sometimes i find it totally arousing and sometimes not.

MsM’s ld

[KittensBoyToy]

Very different for me. M'Lady keeps her property secure in a Jail Bird almost 24/7/365. There is no such thing as a release date. Any release is strictly at her discretion and for her pleasure.

Fantasy was a lot of teasing including being bound and unlocked, edged repeatedly, but only to be denied at the last second then locked back up. The reality is that, as has been said here several times, to me the cage is a constant reminder of my enforced chastity. For my Mistress every day I am locked is just another day to her.

[TwistedMister]

Would this be different if my partner held the keys of is this just the reality of long term confinement?

That depends. If your keyholder is completely 'hands off' and you are 'locked and forgot', then the results would be pretty much similar- it might become just another boring fact of life.

I think, for most of us, it takes a certain amount of keyholder 'input' to keep us 'charged up'. The type and amount of 'input' probably varies widely.

[CagedKC]

Definitely after a few weeks they intensity fades if not a lot of teasing is happening. I think that's the same as a non chastity relationship. Relationships take work on both sides. A cage does not change that. All it takes is for my wife to have me eat her out or for her to set a date with a bull and the horny retuns instantly.

[ian 1976]

for me and my wife it comes in waves.. we’re currently at five months and i have days were i am horny as hell and am told no chance mr. and days where i don’t really notice i’m caged..and she requires pleasing orally.. no two days are the same

[Steve2059]

She used to cage me for long periods (multi-week, longest 5 weeks) and we found that after the first week or so I stopped being so frustrated and sort of accepted my situation. For some time now I've been caged for 4-5 days, then as I settle down She uncages me for 2-3 days, then back in. There are a few exceptions, such as periods of dice-decided challenges where I might be in or out daily (I'm doing one now but am locked as I write), but that's how She generally likes things.

Although I'm permanently orgasm-denied and on honour when uncaged, the act of caging reboots my horniness, sexual frustration and desire to please.

[Spaceman]

The act of putting a cage on and self locking would not do a lot for me. Whats important in reality is her taking control of me, instructing me to get locked up and then emphasizing that control by tease and denial. The longer this lasts the more exciting it is, but her participation and enjoyment is critical for me. I do know where the key is as she doesn't want to hide it, but I'm not allowed to touch it until she says so.

[Tom Allen]

lol at this old thread.

I can say, having been locked for over six years straight, plus another 20 on and off, that the fantasy is frequent teasing and constant horniness. The reality is that sex is something that happens an hour here or there, and the rest of the week you're washing the dishes, mowing the lawn, going to work, etc.

Real, actual real, day-to-day chastity is kind of like the old parable about seeking Zen enlightenment.

"Before zen, chop wood, carry water.
After zen, chop wood, carry water."

[Sam3655]

Fantasy is a whole bunch of teasing and edging. Reality has been long locked periods with little touching of her penis. In fact she has had more orgasms in the last two weeks than I have had in the last two years. Reality is she is big on denial, not on teasing.