how to convince girlfriend to lock me in chastity?
how to convince girlfriend to lock me in chastity?
So the other day we were sexting and at some point we were talking about sex toys, i sent her multiple images of stuff and i saw the opportunity to show her a chastity cage which i pretended to not know what it was to see how she would reply, she was confused at the purpose of it, she eventually googled it and read about it, she read reports of people who wore it and she was like "wow, woudn't it hurt?" " it probably does damage to them, how can they do it?", i sent her multiple videos about it which she always had similar replies, i was always playing dumb and said to her joking "the idea of my girlfriend locking up her property actually excites me" which she replied " yeah all locked up haha, but what if i lose the key?" so we were back and forth joking about it and eventually when the jokes stopped she said " i don't want you to do that i prefer it big and not locked up" she found the teasing part interesting but she was also kind of hesitant of it hurting my penis and testicles, the subject died down and isn't mentioned anymore since then, so how do i get her interested more on chastity and lock me up?
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Re: how to convince girlfriend to lock me in chastity?
RobSil619 wrote: ↑Tue Feb 15, 2022 9:01 pm and i saw the opportunity to show her a chastity cage which i pretended to not know what it was
i was always playing dumb
she found the teasing part interesting but she was also kind of hesitant of it hurting my penis and testicles, the subject died down and isn't mentioned anymore since then,
so how do i get her interested more on chastity and lock me up?
So, your intro post mentions that you have 2 cages.
Yet, your approach was to be deceitful and manipulative, and now that it's not working you're looking for advice on what? Perhaps how to be even more manipulative?
Wait it out a few weeks, and then try this crazy tactic:
"Hey babe, I can't stop thinking about you having me locked in one of those cage things. I know you said you had some doubts, but I would really love for the both of us to try it out. I even bought myself a cage to try wearing it, and there's no pain at all. I think it might be some sexy fun that the both of us will enjoy. And I found a group that has some really good information about this. Can I tell you about it?"
People watch so many convoluted plots on TV that they forget how well honesty works.
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Re: how to convince girlfriend to lock me in chastity?
The sage counsel from @Tom Allen should be heeded and applied. Sex is a weird topic and after nearly 30 years of marriage I still get embarrassed asking my wife for things that "aren't missionary style sex."
I can't say that she has always been enthusiastic nor even willing but she really hates it when she finds out I have been keeping things from her or lying to her about my desires. She wants to know how I feel, what I want and to a point wants to provide those things where she feels comfortable doing so.
Communication. It is the best path to true intimacy.
I can't say that she has always been enthusiastic nor even willing but she really hates it when she finds out I have been keeping things from her or lying to her about my desires. She wants to know how I feel, what I want and to a point wants to provide those things where she feels comfortable doing so.
Communication. It is the best path to true intimacy.
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Re: how to convince girlfriend to lock me in chastity?
I find that having my hubby tell me in fantasy style about things he's interested in is much better than saying I want you to do this or that. It opens communication gently and then it's something we can look into together and see if I have any interest we can try things out.
@Tom Allen 's way of "I can't stop thinking about..." is great. You're just telling her about something that interests you instead of her finding out you have some online Mistress, locking your cock, etc and feels as though you're cheating on her.
There are also some great blogs or books out there that you could get her that tell about your interest.
Hope that helps and good luck!
@Tom Allen 's way of "I can't stop thinking about..." is great. You're just telling her about something that interests you instead of her finding out you have some online Mistress, locking your cock, etc and feels as though you're cheating on her.
There are also some great blogs or books out there that you could get her that tell about your interest.
Hope that helps and good luck!
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Re: how to convince girlfriend to lock me in chastity?
I've done this, too.Lady M wrote: ↑Tue Feb 22, 2022 8:07 am I find that having my hubby tell me in fantasy style about things he's interested in is much better than saying I want you to do this or that. It opens communication gently and then it's something we can look into together and see if I have any interest we can try things out.
"Hey, the other night I had a dream that you made me xxx. I've been thinking about it all week, it was kind of hot."
Again, keep it honest and open... and fun.
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Re: how to convince girlfriend to lock me in chastity?
Even if she is slow coming around to trying it , at least you are being open and honest about it. Realize too that she may be a while.. maybe never.., read , learn, be patient...
Re: how to convince girlfriend to lock me in chastity?
Ohhh having him write me stories about something that interests him or a fantasy he's had etc is also a way to get things out there and create conversation and also it gets you guys thinking and usually hard in your cages while you write. hehe
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Re: how to convince girlfriend to lock me in chastity?
Very true. I’ve written out a few for my lovely wife..she never asked, and I never gave them to her, just a mental download to see if maybe I could process the fantasy onto paper to minimize the brain space it was taking up. lol!
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turn in to i masturbate too much and don’t like myself doing it. i’d much rather save myself and focus on you. could we try this? that’s what i did and it was true.. she said get one let’s see and my obvious change in attention and productivity made her say.. this is brilliant it’s now on my terms.. that was 11 years ago.. it coincided with her falling pregnant with our second child.. “two’s enough. i prefer your tongue, always did really, i don’t want piv sex it’s served it’s purpose..’ was perfect timing really. and nice that the last pic was to create our beautiful son. i still get 6monthly relief sometimes sooner if i’ve excelled in things.. i’m not a wimp or feeble sub type either, just a regular husband who works hard doing the chores the school run the kids dinners the shopping while she relates and has me pleasing her.. it’s very much a FLR led arrangement that evolved slowly. i still crave an orgasm don’t get me wrong but learnt that i’m better without for a period , then we have a night of hand relief and i’m reset for another 4-6 months. seems to work for us.