Today was the first day I spent time in a cage. I’d told my partner it’d arrived Last night and when I met her for breakfast this morning she couldn’t wait to see it. Only problem was I spent 30 mins trying to put it on with no success. I kept getting hard .(nightmare)..Once I figured out how to assemble it I couldn’t squeeze it in.
On returning home I managed to get it on and it felt like nothing I’ve ever experienced. I cant remember ever feeling that submissive. It was a complete eye opener,Ive also never seen that twinkle in my partners eye of pure mischief before either. I spent 90 mins in it This afternoon and in process of another 90 mins at moment before removing. Thanks to all the knowledge I’ve received reading posts here it’s been a successful opening day.
More than happy to hear people’s thoughts on my next steps.
Theim
First day wearing cage
Re: First day wearing cage
Congratulations and welcome to the club!
You may want to try putting on just the base ring and wearing it for a day or two to get used to the feel. When you think you’re ready to put the cage on, do it quickly without thinking about it. before you know it you’ll be locked up!
We all have been through it, and this community will help you.
Sincerely,
MiFlyBoyCFI
Down and locked...Check
You may want to try putting on just the base ring and wearing it for a day or two to get used to the feel. When you think you’re ready to put the cage on, do it quickly without thinking about it. before you know it you’ll be locked up!
We all have been through it, and this community will help you.
Sincerely,
MiFlyBoyCFI
Down and locked...Check
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Re: First day wearing cage
Moved this from The Journey forum as it did not appear to be a blog post.
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Re: First day wearing cage
Thanks mate, realised that after i posted
Re: First day wearing cage
Good for you. I cringe and red flags go off when I read about a guy wearing a chastity cage for the first time and doing it 24/7. Not a good idea at all. What you need to do is wear it a little longer each day. What I did was wear it until it became uncomfortable. Then I wore it that long until it no longer was uncomfortable so I wore it a little longer. Kept doing this until I could wear it till bedtime.
Next step was wearing it to bed. Yes, night time erections woke me up but basically your body gets used to the cage and it ceases to be a frequent problem. While you sleep it is not moving around a lot so without all the rubbing it should be comfy in a week or so. It took me 3 months before I wore mine 24/7.
It seems counter intuitive but the smallest ring you can wear that does not cut off your blood supply is actually more comfortable in the long run. If you can slip a part of a finger tip under the ring, you are good to go. The reason is that a tight ring will not twist around all day and rub you raw. My ring stays put and I do not get chaffed. Lots of guys put on the large ring because it feels very comfortable. For short term wear that is true. Once you go 24/7 it will not be very comfortable and you may wake up at night with one ball in and one out of the ring.
Take it slowly and you will last longer in this fetish. Get your partner to edge and tease you often and you both will have a great time. BTW, all those benefits for the key holder and how you magically now want to do all the housework and crawl on all fours with a leash, is pure BS porn stuff. Believe me, you may enjoy a day or more of doing all the housework and being treated as a sex slave, but one day you will wake up and not feel like licking any feet or doing all the housework. The initial excitement wears off.
My Wife and I have always had a fetish sex life for 48 years together and with my wife's girlfriends. What we learned from the long time fetishist is to keep your fetish in the bedroom. Enjoy and then lead a normal life as we do. That is why we are married so long. My wife dominates me in bed and not outside of it. I am not her slave. She does all the housework while I work all day making money to afford all these chastity devices. Real life is not like what you see and read in porn. I think most guys do what they read about simply because they think they should. The stuff on the internet is masturbation fodder and not a guide to living your fetish as normal people. No if you are locked up your wife is suppose to have sex with guys with big penises, mostly black guys too. She is to make you feel less than a man and humiliate you in front of her friends and male lovers. No way. Chasity can stand on its own. You do not need to change who you are simply because you penis is encased in a cage and your key holder decides when to take it out to play and when to let it squirt.
I started out with Chasity like I did with pretty much any fetish most people can think of. Normally we grew bored of all those other fetishes in 2-3 years. We have been into chastity for over 10 years now and I actually feel better locked up than not. My wife fell in love with her vibrators and likes that sex is focuses on what she wants and how she wants it for a change. She is happy and I am happy. We are realistic and that is why it has lasted so long. So don't start off jumping into the deep part of the pool. Take your time. Although most of us play games to decide when to orgasm, keep in mind that doing that takes the power of control of your orgasms away from your key holder and places it in the game. It is a good game to get your partner used to sex without your orgasms without feeling guilty about it. It is out of his or her hands. Sooner or later your partner needs to make those decisions and that is where your partner's fun comes into play.
Next step was wearing it to bed. Yes, night time erections woke me up but basically your body gets used to the cage and it ceases to be a frequent problem. While you sleep it is not moving around a lot so without all the rubbing it should be comfy in a week or so. It took me 3 months before I wore mine 24/7.
It seems counter intuitive but the smallest ring you can wear that does not cut off your blood supply is actually more comfortable in the long run. If you can slip a part of a finger tip under the ring, you are good to go. The reason is that a tight ring will not twist around all day and rub you raw. My ring stays put and I do not get chaffed. Lots of guys put on the large ring because it feels very comfortable. For short term wear that is true. Once you go 24/7 it will not be very comfortable and you may wake up at night with one ball in and one out of the ring.
Take it slowly and you will last longer in this fetish. Get your partner to edge and tease you often and you both will have a great time. BTW, all those benefits for the key holder and how you magically now want to do all the housework and crawl on all fours with a leash, is pure BS porn stuff. Believe me, you may enjoy a day or more of doing all the housework and being treated as a sex slave, but one day you will wake up and not feel like licking any feet or doing all the housework. The initial excitement wears off.
My Wife and I have always had a fetish sex life for 48 years together and with my wife's girlfriends. What we learned from the long time fetishist is to keep your fetish in the bedroom. Enjoy and then lead a normal life as we do. That is why we are married so long. My wife dominates me in bed and not outside of it. I am not her slave. She does all the housework while I work all day making money to afford all these chastity devices. Real life is not like what you see and read in porn. I think most guys do what they read about simply because they think they should. The stuff on the internet is masturbation fodder and not a guide to living your fetish as normal people. No if you are locked up your wife is suppose to have sex with guys with big penises, mostly black guys too. She is to make you feel less than a man and humiliate you in front of her friends and male lovers. No way. Chasity can stand on its own. You do not need to change who you are simply because you penis is encased in a cage and your key holder decides when to take it out to play and when to let it squirt.
I started out with Chasity like I did with pretty much any fetish most people can think of. Normally we grew bored of all those other fetishes in 2-3 years. We have been into chastity for over 10 years now and I actually feel better locked up than not. My wife fell in love with her vibrators and likes that sex is focuses on what she wants and how she wants it for a change. She is happy and I am happy. We are realistic and that is why it has lasted so long. So don't start off jumping into the deep part of the pool. Take your time. Although most of us play games to decide when to orgasm, keep in mind that doing that takes the power of control of your orgasms away from your key holder and places it in the game. It is a good game to get your partner used to sex without your orgasms without feeling guilty about it. It is out of his or her hands. Sooner or later your partner needs to make those decisions and that is where your partner's fun comes into play.