Shepherdsflock wrote:I would not call it painful. It just feels like you're being squeezed a bit.
When I read online, it said that getting an erection would be painful with the device on, and that can help to discourage masturbation.
Shepherdsflock wrote:As for telling your SO, that's up to you. Does she even know about your masturbation? If so, does she know how serious you are about stopping? Is it important to her that you stop? Those would all be good starting points. Tell her how hard it is to stop and that you feel like you need some help. Then you could tell her that you were looking online for something that could help you. And you found this thing called a chastity device. See how she responds.
Yes she knows and yes she wants me to stop. She wants me to... Focus my energies on her instead.
So, should I ask her to be my key holder? And how often should she let me out?
Unless you something like a Kali's Teeth or something that is designed to make erections painful, most chastity devices don't make erections painful. Just a little uncomfortable at first. I would not just come straight at her with a request to be your keyholder.
Here's a link to some sites I shared with my wife when I introduced chastity to stop masturbating :
There also used to be an excellent blog by a lady who went by Katie Christian. It is no longer up, which is sad because it was a really excellent blog to share with wives. She wrote from the wife's perspective and never got into graphic stuff. My wife actually liked that one, it helped her understand that chastity is a good thing to encourage for me.
curious_college wrote:So, in short: I discuss it with her, we order a device, and then we discuss having her be my key holder and how often she lets me out. Right?
Also, what happens if we break up?
You either ask for the key or cut the lock off and get another lock and key setup.
Other than that, that sounds like a good start.
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curious_college wrote:So, in short: I discuss it with her, we order a device, and then we discuss having her be my key holder and how often she lets me out. Right?
Also, what happens if we break up?
You either ask for the key or cut the lock off and get another lock and key setup.
Other than that, that sounds like a good start.
Are there devices that surround the balls as well so I can't touch them as well? That might be helpful I think.
I believe this will achieve what you are looking for. I'm not so sure it would be comfortable for long term wear.
BTW, your name befits you.
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