[Sam3655] I’ve put it out there
Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2022 11:45 am
Looking back, chastity for me is falling down a rabbit hole. I didn’t fantasize about having my junk locked up nor do I consider myself submissive. I am 56 this year. About a year ago the wife was going on a trip for about two weeks to take care of her mother and joked about trusting me. I sent her a picture of a chastity cage and jokingly said I would wear it while she was gone if it would make her feel better. She said no and it was quickly forgotten.
With menopause she states she has zero hormones and lost her sex drive. Sex became less and less till it was once every other month. I could also go down on her but rarely if ever any reciprocation. This let to taking matters into my own hand as they say and frequently self pleasured. This in turn led to really bad tennis elbow. Yes any repetitive movement can cause tennis elbow. I like lifting weights and it was getting more and more painful to grief the bar. I would get a sharp pain in my forearm down to my wrist. But by this time my self pleasuring was just as addictive as my weight lifting.
I should mention the wife and I sleep in separate bedrooms due to snoring issues. With an aching elbow, I remembered the cock cage and thought it would be a great way to stop masturbating. Trial and error and knockoff models on eBay I found a steel $10 cage from China and a resin Cobra cage that fit well. In my research for the cage I also delved into learning about male chastity. Wearing the cage at night soon fixed my tennis elbow. I was also wearing my cage during work but always took it off when I would be spending time with the wife. This has been going on for about six months and never knowing how to approach her.
I found wearing the cage came with a low level of arousal. I felt more with my penis confined in the cage. But like anyone doing self chastity it is just to darn easy to take the cage off and rub one out. The more I read, this forum included, I began thinking of what it would be like to have an actual key holder. Last weekend with some drinks and cards we were discussing the lack of sex in our lives and her worries about my wanting to roam. Told her I only wanted her and brought up chastity. Tried explaining it to her and showed her the cages. But she said she didn’t think she could be mean to me. I didn’t want to push too hard so I suggested I send her a book on the subject to her Kindle. She can read it no pressure, afterwards we could discuss it again and if any interest, we could give it a two week trial and then discuss again to see if we could continue.
I sent her the book and keeping with my no pressure have not brought up chastity at all. It’s just difficult waiting for her to read the book or know if she is even going to read it. But that is where I am at and waiting to see if we can take the next step on this journey. I would also like her to join this forum cause there is so much advice and experiences to learn from.
With menopause she states she has zero hormones and lost her sex drive. Sex became less and less till it was once every other month. I could also go down on her but rarely if ever any reciprocation. This let to taking matters into my own hand as they say and frequently self pleasured. This in turn led to really bad tennis elbow. Yes any repetitive movement can cause tennis elbow. I like lifting weights and it was getting more and more painful to grief the bar. I would get a sharp pain in my forearm down to my wrist. But by this time my self pleasuring was just as addictive as my weight lifting.
I should mention the wife and I sleep in separate bedrooms due to snoring issues. With an aching elbow, I remembered the cock cage and thought it would be a great way to stop masturbating. Trial and error and knockoff models on eBay I found a steel $10 cage from China and a resin Cobra cage that fit well. In my research for the cage I also delved into learning about male chastity. Wearing the cage at night soon fixed my tennis elbow. I was also wearing my cage during work but always took it off when I would be spending time with the wife. This has been going on for about six months and never knowing how to approach her.
I found wearing the cage came with a low level of arousal. I felt more with my penis confined in the cage. But like anyone doing self chastity it is just to darn easy to take the cage off and rub one out. The more I read, this forum included, I began thinking of what it would be like to have an actual key holder. Last weekend with some drinks and cards we were discussing the lack of sex in our lives and her worries about my wanting to roam. Told her I only wanted her and brought up chastity. Tried explaining it to her and showed her the cages. But she said she didn’t think she could be mean to me. I didn’t want to push too hard so I suggested I send her a book on the subject to her Kindle. She can read it no pressure, afterwards we could discuss it again and if any interest, we could give it a two week trial and then discuss again to see if we could continue.
I sent her the book and keeping with my no pressure have not brought up chastity at all. It’s just difficult waiting for her to read the book or know if she is even going to read it. But that is where I am at and waiting to see if we can take the next step on this journey. I would also like her to join this forum cause there is so much advice and experiences to learn from.