[inchastityat127] She is starting to like it more when I’m locked
Posted: Fri Oct 15, 2021 12:48 pm
I have been reading the forum for quite some time, but finally made an account and decided to start a Journal to document our story.
I'm 52, she's 47 and we live in the SE USA. I have a bit of a kinky side, and while she puts up with my whims, she is mostly a naive "good girl" at heart. She is the definition of vanilla. That is one of the reasons I love here so much.
We have several toys for her and she has tolerated my occasional whims in chastity a bit over the past 5 years or so but she’s never been into it. The longest we’ve gone being locked is MAYBE 30 days without an orgasm. I’ve used cheap plastic and metal devices over the years but decided I like metal ones better. They seem to stay cleaner - or not smell like the plastic devices I’ve used in the past. I bought The Vice and Vice mini. I’ve spent a lot of money over the years to find a device that properly fits, wasn’t too bulky, and stayed on. As you know, I finally discovered smaller and snug is best. I ordered sizing rings from Mature Metal, but didn’t want to spend the money for her to want to participate part time and not really enjoy it. I’ve had the sizing rings over a year and have made many measurements.
Over the past several months, the need/desire for chastity has once again become very strong. I have purposely made her have more orgasms than me reminding her I REALLY enjoy making her feel good without any pressure to "return the favor." In fact - I kept count - and since July 1, 2021 until now, she has had 32 orgasms to my 13. Four of mine were solo endeavors with a lack of self control on my part, so she allowed a total of 9.
Recently, I wrote her a letter explaining why I desired chastity so much and I wanted her to be in control sexually. I printed out some materials from an email subscription from a chastity blog I found (https://malechastityblog.com). They were written from a female perspective, and I think that helped. They explained what would generally happen with chastity being introduced to a vanilla relationship. It also explained what/how men desired and enjoyed chastity and they really DON’T need to cum. By denying me, my wife wasn’t being mean, she was giving me what I wanted. Tease and denial for me and lots of attention for her. I believe it was the turning point.
I was already locked, but it was more casual and not very strict. In the letter with the blog printout, I told her I wanted this to continue indefinitely. I wrote up some rules or a chastity agreement and we both signed it.
Finally, on July 25th, 2021 she locked me in a metal chastity device from our inventory and kept the key. In the beginning of our chastity play, she would feel guilty and let me out if I even mentioned needing (wanting) out. After her keeping me locked pretty consistently for over a month, I finally ordered a Mature Metal Jailbird on Aug 27th. I thought if she was going to go "all in" then I wanted a quality metal cage. I haven't found an "off the shelf" one that fit me really well that wouldn't easily slip off or cause chaffing.
I had to do my own version of Locktober, (yes, topping from the bottom) and told her I wanted to stay locked the whole month and give her 15 orgasms before Halloween. That's a lot for her and our schedule. So, we have been working toward that goal. I counted and told her on Nov 2nd would be 100 days that I have been in chastity except when she let me out, so she agreed to a few more days at the end of Locktober to be a "reward date" for me.
After being locked more or less constantly since the end of July, on Sunday, Oct 10th, she stated that she did not like to view my chastity cage and when she is in the mood for some action, she didn't want to have to stop, find the key, and unlock it. It was a mood killer and she was in a foul mood. Knowing I wanted my chastity to be fun for her and not a chore, I got the key and gave it to her. She unlocked me. I figured our chastity play once more was coming to an end....
Over the next three days, we had sex several times and I was even allowed anal sex to completion. I was in heaven after being locked up for so long. She realized on her own that my mood and attitude changed after being allowed to orgasm. (The blog addressed this and why keeping him locked is best). She even became a little insecure - wanting to know I still liked her, I didn't only want sex, etc. since the physical attention (non sexual) wasn't as prevalent as before being unlocked. I think the blog material helped her realize what was going on.
Even with all the orgasms I had had since Sunday, on Tuesday morning I couldn't help myself when I woke up early with morning wood and took care of business in the shower. Later that day, my Jailbird was delivered to work (I get the mail). I texted her that my custom, well fitting "contraption" (her word) arrived - and I was bad this morning. Her reply was simply "It's ok. Get back in there."
I've been locked ever since. Over the past few days, I have really tried to amp up the affection and make her finish as much as possible. Yesterday (Oct 14th) she told me "I think I like you this way better" followed quickly with "I think I've had 5 (she was right), so we have some catching up to do before the end of the month."
THAT was what made me start this story. The Jailbird fits so well, I don't realize I have it on sometimes. Still "topping from the bottom," I told her that since we took it off for a few days, 100 days from from today (when I put it back on Oct 12) is Jan 20th - since you like me better this way. and that should be our new goal." Her reply was "as you wish."
So we're making progress. The final thing I will share is this: searching the internet, I found the following picture and sent it to her asking what phase she thought we were in. I wanted to gauge her thoughts.
Her reply: second with a little bit of third.
I told her "I'd love to get to four and five, do you think you could get there with time?" Her reply? "Maybe. I'll try."
So that is where we are.
I'm 52, she's 47 and we live in the SE USA. I have a bit of a kinky side, and while she puts up with my whims, she is mostly a naive "good girl" at heart. She is the definition of vanilla. That is one of the reasons I love here so much.
We have several toys for her and she has tolerated my occasional whims in chastity a bit over the past 5 years or so but she’s never been into it. The longest we’ve gone being locked is MAYBE 30 days without an orgasm. I’ve used cheap plastic and metal devices over the years but decided I like metal ones better. They seem to stay cleaner - or not smell like the plastic devices I’ve used in the past. I bought The Vice and Vice mini. I’ve spent a lot of money over the years to find a device that properly fits, wasn’t too bulky, and stayed on. As you know, I finally discovered smaller and snug is best. I ordered sizing rings from Mature Metal, but didn’t want to spend the money for her to want to participate part time and not really enjoy it. I’ve had the sizing rings over a year and have made many measurements.
Over the past several months, the need/desire for chastity has once again become very strong. I have purposely made her have more orgasms than me reminding her I REALLY enjoy making her feel good without any pressure to "return the favor." In fact - I kept count - and since July 1, 2021 until now, she has had 32 orgasms to my 13. Four of mine were solo endeavors with a lack of self control on my part, so she allowed a total of 9.
Recently, I wrote her a letter explaining why I desired chastity so much and I wanted her to be in control sexually. I printed out some materials from an email subscription from a chastity blog I found (https://malechastityblog.com). They were written from a female perspective, and I think that helped. They explained what would generally happen with chastity being introduced to a vanilla relationship. It also explained what/how men desired and enjoyed chastity and they really DON’T need to cum. By denying me, my wife wasn’t being mean, she was giving me what I wanted. Tease and denial for me and lots of attention for her. I believe it was the turning point.
I was already locked, but it was more casual and not very strict. In the letter with the blog printout, I told her I wanted this to continue indefinitely. I wrote up some rules or a chastity agreement and we both signed it.
Finally, on July 25th, 2021 she locked me in a metal chastity device from our inventory and kept the key. In the beginning of our chastity play, she would feel guilty and let me out if I even mentioned needing (wanting) out. After her keeping me locked pretty consistently for over a month, I finally ordered a Mature Metal Jailbird on Aug 27th. I thought if she was going to go "all in" then I wanted a quality metal cage. I haven't found an "off the shelf" one that fit me really well that wouldn't easily slip off or cause chaffing.
I had to do my own version of Locktober, (yes, topping from the bottom) and told her I wanted to stay locked the whole month and give her 15 orgasms before Halloween. That's a lot for her and our schedule. So, we have been working toward that goal. I counted and told her on Nov 2nd would be 100 days that I have been in chastity except when she let me out, so she agreed to a few more days at the end of Locktober to be a "reward date" for me.
After being locked more or less constantly since the end of July, on Sunday, Oct 10th, she stated that she did not like to view my chastity cage and when she is in the mood for some action, she didn't want to have to stop, find the key, and unlock it. It was a mood killer and she was in a foul mood. Knowing I wanted my chastity to be fun for her and not a chore, I got the key and gave it to her. She unlocked me. I figured our chastity play once more was coming to an end....
Over the next three days, we had sex several times and I was even allowed anal sex to completion. I was in heaven after being locked up for so long. She realized on her own that my mood and attitude changed after being allowed to orgasm. (The blog addressed this and why keeping him locked is best). She even became a little insecure - wanting to know I still liked her, I didn't only want sex, etc. since the physical attention (non sexual) wasn't as prevalent as before being unlocked. I think the blog material helped her realize what was going on.
Even with all the orgasms I had had since Sunday, on Tuesday morning I couldn't help myself when I woke up early with morning wood and took care of business in the shower. Later that day, my Jailbird was delivered to work (I get the mail). I texted her that my custom, well fitting "contraption" (her word) arrived - and I was bad this morning. Her reply was simply "It's ok. Get back in there."
I've been locked ever since. Over the past few days, I have really tried to amp up the affection and make her finish as much as possible. Yesterday (Oct 14th) she told me "I think I like you this way better" followed quickly with "I think I've had 5 (she was right), so we have some catching up to do before the end of the month."
THAT was what made me start this story. The Jailbird fits so well, I don't realize I have it on sometimes. Still "topping from the bottom," I told her that since we took it off for a few days, 100 days from from today (when I put it back on Oct 12) is Jan 20th - since you like me better this way. and that should be our new goal." Her reply was "as you wish."
So we're making progress. The final thing I will share is this: searching the internet, I found the following picture and sent it to her asking what phase she thought we were in. I wanted to gauge her thoughts.
Her reply: second with a little bit of third.
I told her "I'd love to get to four and five, do you think you could get there with time?" Her reply? "Maybe. I'll try."
So that is where we are.