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[Mr Pickle] one step forwards, two steps back

Changed my intro. Too much information.
This journey covers four years (so far) from a kink in my head to an insanely better life for the whole family.
Yes it's about cock cages and sex and how it comes about etc. But more importantly how C my wife changes, and how it enables her to make these changes to a much better life (as a result of the cage).

married with kids.

now married 19 years to a most wonderful wonderful woman whom due to religious upbringing was a bit wary about this stuff or kinks in general,
but seemed to catch on pretty fast once things got going.
I on the other hand had a different background.
Lots of one night stands. Short relationships and so on. By twenty I'd dated a woman twice my age, danced on tables for hen parties and danced on stage naked (comedy chipedale/balloon dance type of thing)
I was lucky enough to be fit and decently proportioned so my first paying job was a kiss a gram. party entertainer and table dancer.

I had a bit of history.

Now after 15 years of marriage sex was still good. always. on tap. my wife wants me to feel satisfied and seems happier if we have sex regular. even if it's a hand job.

but I'm starting to not rise to the occasion. or lose it while in the act. my usual answer is to try to spice it up a bit. new toy. new kink ect.

my wife does not like me having toys or gadgets at all.
She doesnt like anything new.
its competition or an alternative to her. Although she does have a few toys of her own that I've introduced over the years and she likes them. . oh yes. a lot more now.
I dont mind obviously. I'm pretty lucky in the erection catagory at just under 8" so I'm not at all intimidated by them. in fact I introduced them as a part of spicing up.

Saying C was strictly vanilla wouldn't be fair. Its more bound by our lifestyle (yes we have kids) so as much as we would.. spontaneous over the table isn't an option. Spontaneity isn't an option at all.

And. Yes it becomes a bit tedious. No matter what you do. Do it often and it just isn't as exciting.

My wife.. she is My exciting! My porn. My pasion. My mision. I want to keep it that way

My wife thinks everything is perfect and there is no need for change.
As a rule any attempt to introduce a sexual topic is cut off abruptly and will not be tolerated.

So new games for the bedroom is usually my goal.
And I have to be inventive. I also have to do a whole lot of shit shovelling.
Thank God she loves me regardless.

This is the intro to my journey. Its back dated as I started my notes in june 2019 but will eventually got up to date.
Yes I've fucked up. Yes advice was needed. But what is done cannot be undone.
Feel free to be outraged. At this time my apologies have already been made and debts being paid.

So here we go. Down the rabbit hole.

2019. in sunny Wales. everyone is happy and weekend holidays have begun. A perfect time to bring up a new idea

so I start with.. " hey honey. Ive seen this interesting thing thst might help me in certain ways...and I'm cut off with "if it's anything about your penis or kinky wierd stuff the answer is NO! I don't want to know"

ok. expected I supose so now I know where I stand.

Over the years I've added all sorts of minor kinks which are now just normal but I've always had to use the back door or a round about way to get them in. so I figured I'll get one anyway figure it out and then find a way to introduce it.
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June 2019.
I was going to find a way to self lock in a way that she could accept. Or Hopefully in time she would accept it.

I started to read advice from those who sell, and after lots of experiments with different designs and sizes (see how many have you got in general forum) I settled on a steel cage. oval ring and shoelace.

this was in advance because I knew there would be no patience for wearing in time.

I build houses these days. one at a time. solo. from foundation to roof and everything in between. so im always getting knocks and bangs and power tools are my new heaven.

A few times I'd hit my bits and couldn’t perform and i had some sensitivity issues which i blamed on the vibrarions from the tools (like white knuckle).
The truth was, this was my excuse for oncoming Ed problems, not getting it up etc. And I was too macho embarrassed to say I wasn't up to it, which in itself was depressing.

Maybe it was age? I didn't think so. 8 think we were lacking in spice naughtiness.

I had found a website that suggested a chastity cage also protects your man bits. Most likely protection from myself waking it, but the protection idea?
Yes. This was something I could work with.

Then another night where I couldn't perform.

So i put it down to work again. I keep baning it, siting in it, trapping it.

C "Cant you wear a sport box"

'No. they make my balls sweat and i get a rash'
"there must be something?"
'I'll google it. Ok there is this. it protects the penis but doesn't cover the balls so no sweat. but its expensive'
"well it's better than an injury".
'ok. I'll order one'

now at this time. I already had them and I had adjusted to day wear.
cb6000, silicon, curve.

now to wait a few days before saying they had arrived.
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this was the poster/add I used to support my case.
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July 2nd 2019

a week later I walked in after a hard days work.
i had been wearing the curve all day no problem.

'Hi honey. I got banged pretty hard in the bits today'.

"Oh no. again?"

'yeah. it didnt hurt though, I've been wearing this thing since Monday'.

She came right over and grabbed my crotch

" Oooh, that's good, it worked.. Well come on, show it to me."

'um, ok. bit embarrassing though'

"Now!"

'ok,

"omg it's huge".. she wails.

I reply 'yeah. but did the job. it came free with purple soft one which is smaller. ill try it on, see what you think'.

so I Don the silicon cb6000

"Yes" she says " that looks much better" but whats with the lock? it makes it looks like something from bdsm ha ha"

'well I could use ties. but it might fall off and that could be really embarrassing'.

"great. Hopefully no more damage down there then"

and that was that. went a lot better than I'd hoped.

I had tried them both and wasn't happy. the curve fits well but it ridiculouse to wear and the silicone cb6000 just twists and strains when I get hard. just not that happy. but now I've a step in the right direction I'm willing to shop for steel.

I broke one of the curve rings getting it on and claimed it had broke with the impact and i would feel better with something more sturdy

wife agreed straight away realising the benefit of my wearing it at work.

and so I hit the net and order some steel. :D
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I hope you have a good answer for her when she searches for PeniGuard and doesn't find it anywhere. Otherwise, great story..!!!
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We go away at weekends camping and I do work on the woodlands there. chainsaws. ditches and so on and weekend was coming up.

my wife said I should wear my cage at weekend too. so that's me in self lock 7 days per week with my wife's approval.

now i hoped to find a way to ware at night.

I carried on complaining of a numb penis.

my metal cage arrived. I'd said the curve had been sent back and refunded so it had paid for a better cage.

this cage was small. 2.5" so pushed my penis into my body.
during the day it was actually very comfortable.

Wife said it looked more like a fashion accessory. Small and neat.

I decided to test it at night.
my wife didnt know, she very rarely touches me down there & I didn't want to say I was trying it out without a good enough reason.

big mistake. night erections very uncomfortable. painful but I endured them.
I must have been moaning quite a bit. my wife mistook it for sexual frustration and woke up really horney.

I had to keep her away from my cock. she'd freak.
I offered to go down and tongue and toy fuck her for now and then fuck later.

I said because my bits are still numb from the bang.

My cock and balls were fucking screaming now. especially with all this sex.

my balls were completely soaked with pre cum. this was new.

As soon as she had an orgasm I jumped up to make coffee and went straight to the bathroom.

I was bruised swollen and sore.

still happy as fuck though.
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a week later i was still complaining about the numbness from tools at work.

"does that thing help" she asked

i replied 'yes it does. eventually it will cure it. but how long depends on how often I wear it'

"but you wear it every day"

'Yes. but only for 8 out of 24 hours'

I showed her a leaflet with advice.. wear as much as pos. no masterbation etc.
wear at night for best effect.

well you should wear it at night as well then.

and now I'm locked 24/7 with consent and hoping the wife will get used to my wearing it.
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Chastityat60 wrote: Wed Nov 20, 2019 5:37 pm I hope you have a good answer for her when she searches for PeniGuard and doesn't find it anywhere. Otherwise, great story..!!!
I knew she wasn't interested enough to look. But if it had come up I had the Web page ready to upload 😉. I didn't do it before hand in case I got an order I couldn’t complete
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Gehngus wrote: Thu Nov 21, 2019 4:44 pm
Chastityat60 wrote: Wed Nov 20, 2019 5:37 pm I hope you have a good answer for her when she searches for PeniGuard and doesn't find it anywhere. Otherwise, great story..!!!
I knew she wasn't interested enough to look. But if it had come up I had the Web page ready to upload 😉. I didn't do it before hand in vase I got an order I couldn’t complete
Too funny..
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Sounds to me as if you’re going to a massive amount of trouble to avoid speaking truthfully with your Wife !! On my case that would never get me where i wanted to be in the end !! Sooner or later, if you want to progress, you’ll have to tell Her what you’ve done and so She will feel foolish. In my view, while amusing to a degree, this is a poor way to start anything in a relationship.

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