[inchastityat127] She is starting to like it more when I’m locked

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inchastityat127
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So I shared the following link with my wife and after she read it we talked about it: https://www.lovepanky.com/sensual-tease ... asm-denial

I think she is starting to fully understand. She had neck surgery about 10 days ago. Since Feb 1, she has wanted me to make her orgasm every night. Yesterday she wanted me to rub her entire body down with lotion midday after her shower.

So things are progressing along nicely. Yesterday was a busy day for me. She still can’t drive or lift anything. We ran errands earlier in the day, our son was being a handful, there was a classmate’s birthday party to attend, and just normal work stuff around the house. It was a LOT to deal with.

She was worn out and stayed home from the birthday party which was at an indoor trampoline place. It was mayhem, but I got through it. On the way home from the party, she called and thanked me for my contribution/work for the day and said I deserved a reward. She volunteered to use the wand on me if I promised to remain caged and told her when I was close. She wanted to edge me in the cage for a reward. And it was her idea! I quickly agreed.

Later, that exact thing happened. After some teasing, she found “that spot” and after a few seconds I told her to stop. The caged jumped as involuntary dry contractions occurred, but not quite to an orgasm. She grabbed my cage, lifted it and exclaimed “you didn’t finish, did you?” It was not a happy voice, but one full of dissatisfaction and anger-like. I assured her I did not, but she checked anyway. This may have been the first time she had really purposely edged me and watched my body’s reaction. She reminded me I only had 12 orgasms for 2022 and I have already had 2.

After an few more edges, she said “There you go!” and handed the wand to me so I could put it away. As I leaned over to put the wand in the nightstand, she told me to get her favorite toy because now she was excited and wanted to finish. Edging me made her excited! Wow! So I used her toy on her and she quickly orgasmed.

She is becoming more comfortable, involved, and taking more control as we approach 200 days with me in full time chastity.

On we go….
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Over the past few years I have tried to get my wife "into" me wearing a chastity cage. She would play along because she loves me, but would let me out whenever I hinted about it. She didn't want me in chastity and thought it was "gross." It got to the point we just threw all of the cheap (and a couple of not so cheap) cages away when we moved.

If you have read my Journey from the beginning, you know things have changed. 200 days ago (July 26th, 2021), she agreed to be my full time keyholder. Since we had thrown all the other devices away, we went to a local adult store and I bought one while she stayed in the car.

Since July 26, 2021, I have been unlocked less than a total of 4 days. I am now wearing a Jailbird full time since Oct 12, 2021. It has been off once because she wanted my penis inside of her 25 days ago (after being locked 97 days). That is the only time since July she has allowed it (if my memory is correct).

She is becoming very comfortable having lots of orgasms and telling me to give her one - usually with a toy. She is skilled at edging me and giving me caged orgasms. Recently, she has begun to experiment with caged ruined orgasms.

The other night we were talking about our progress and life in general. I asked if she thought I would always be in chastity for her and she simply replied “yes.” For the past three weeks, there has been only edging and from what she has said, this is my "new normal".

Before this, she was as vanilla as vanilla could be. She could be the poster child for vanilla wives. It has been a long journey and I'm loving every minute of it. It is so true, be careful what you ask for - and be patient with your keyholder.

On we go....
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We have settled into a routine. We will kiss/make out, I’ll touch her favorite parts of her body to get her ready, and then I’ll ask which toy she wants. I’ll use the requested toy to make her orgasm. Afterwards, we’ll cuddle a bit and when we “spoon” she’ll push her body against mine. She says she likes to feel it jump against her as I hold her. When she is satisfied, we’ll get ready for bed. By default, I don’t get any specific attention or edged. I service her, we connect physically, and then go to sleep.

We had a lot of fun last night with fingers and toys - but also a bonus activity! The bonus activity was her straddling my face and allowing me to taste her. It’s not her favorite, but with the addition of a dildo deep in her butt, she orgasmed. It was awesome and I wish she would let me do that more.

For 2022 I’ve had 2 orgasms to her 16. Her number is a bit low because she had a neck fusion toward the end of January so we took a few weeks off.

I sent her this earlier today with the message “I’m assuming you enjoy ‘with’ more than ‘without.’”
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And she just replied “YES! YES! YES!”

I did purchase this (Kitchen Safe Time Locking Container (mini): https://smile.amazon.com/gp/r.html?C=3E ... _624669850 and my keys are currently stored inside. Now she doesn’t have to worry about me using the key while she’s away. The ONLY thing I don’t like about it is the max time is 9 days, 23 hours, and 59 minutes. However, you can easily add more time before time runs out. There is NOT a way to reduce time.

The other night the container prevented her from accessing the keys. She wanted me inside of her but couldn’t get to the keys. Both keys are locked in the container. She did admit the denial was kind of “hot” and I used a toy instead.

My last orgasm was mid January and don’t want to orgasm until my birthday in a few weeks (in March). Then I’ll be back on track for “1 a month.” We also talked about how fast I do orgasm once I’m allowed in her. I know she wants to feel it a bit longer, so we discussed numbing cream. She doesn’t want the numbing cream inside of her, so I said we could apply the numbing cream and then a condom. It said it was “weird” but “ok.” I have the 5% Lidocaine cream - just need to buy some condoms. Does anyone have any experience with this? How helpful is it?

She is becoming just a little less vanilla every month!

On we go….
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I’ve noticed my cage getting loose over the past few months as I’ve been running and watching my diet. I contacted Mature Metal and they said weight loss has a large influence on the fit of a device. I’ll have to send the whole device back to fit a smaller base ring. I’ve lost 15 pounds in body weight and want to lose 10 more, so I was trying to wait instead of send back again later.

In anticipation of sending my device back for a smaller base ring, I purchased a cheap device off the Internet and it was delivered last week.

Tonight while in the shower and shaving, my Jailbird slipped all the way off. I was unable to put it back on. The keys are still locked away for over 24 hours, so I had to change to my backup device.

My wife wasn’t here, but I immediately informed her so she would know why I’m in a different device.

On we go….
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The time ran out on the lockbox and I couldn’t wait to get back into my Jailbird. It just fits better. I do need to send it back to get a smaller base ring, though.

It’s almost March which means I get to orgasm! I’m hoping she chooses my birthday toward the first of the month instead of our wedding anniversary on the 31st ;)

Other than that, just doing life. Caged.

On we go….
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Here's an update to our current situation:
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My birthday was last week and I thought MAYBE I would get unlocked. I didn't. We went out to eat, then home to bed. She DID actually wear the keys on a necklace all day - including to work (inside her shirt, of course) on my birthday. She teaches at a college so there's a certain professional standard to be held. She sent me a picture of her standing in her office with them on the outside of her shirt! I can't remember the last time she did that!

We do have a date night on Saturday, with my mom watching little one overnight, so we'll see. Then we have another one NEXT Saturday when her mom comes to town. She told me she has two nights planned including surprises I'll enjoy. She's been doing research.... My vanilla wife is becoming not so vanilla....

We're off to a slow start, but there were surgeries and sickness that took away from our 2022 total to date. Her orgasms: 21, my orgasms: 2

On we go....
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inchastityat127 wrote: Sat Feb 19, 2022 11:26 am I know she wants to feel it a bit longer, so we discussed numbing cream. She doesn’t want the numbing cream inside of her, so I said we could apply the numbing cream and then a condom. It said it was “weird” but “ok.” I have the 5% Lidocaine cream - just need to buy some condoms. Does anyone have any experience with this? How helpful is it?
It is very helpful and fun. My keyholder has me use one coat of numbing cream, wait 10 minutes, apply second heavy coat, then two desensitizing condoms. I can tell I'm inside her, but certainly can't get enough stimulation to orgasm. She has me take a Cialis and wear a cock ring to stay hard. I fuck her until she is raw and says stop. Then clean up and back in the cage as soon as I'm soft enough.
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It's been several weeks since I've posted. While not a LOT has changed, a lot HAS changed.

I've been pretty much locked full time since the end of July, 2021. My longest locked period was just short of 100 days. Beginning in November or so, I joined the gym and began to watch what I eat and drink (no "real" diet). In the process, I've lost 10 to 15 pounds. As a result, my base ring on my Mature Metal Jailbird is now too large. I didn't know you could lose weight in your balls, but whatever..... I contacted MM and they told me the process and I paid/prepared for when I was unlocked.

I informed my wife (and keyholder) of this and told her it would take about a week to get a new one. As part of the process, I had to also send back the cage so they could insure a good fit. She said OK, that will be a fun week!

On Thursday, March 10th, she sends me a picture of her wearing the actual key on a necklace on the outside of her shirt! At work! That is a first!!!!

Of course, that got me excited, but I was not unlocked that night. Or the next night, or the next night! On Sunday, March 13th, the cage was removed and we had PIV for the first time in nearly two months. Of course, I didn't last very long. I cleaned the cage, and prepared to sent it back Monday morning and remained uncaged with thoughts of having lots of sex for the next week!

The side affect of being free after over 225 days of being nearly consistently locked was wanting lots of orgasms. My wife wasn't feeling well and busy with work, so she told me to take care of myself as much as I wanted. And I did and have over the past 10 days.

Over the past few days she has asked me several times which I liked better or preferred - locked or unlocked. I told her whatever she preferred and wanted. I stayed unlocked. Secretly I wanted to be locked, but I REALLY wanted her to be the one to tell me to do it.

Over the past few months, she has let her pubic hair grow wild. I prefer it shaved/trimmed short, but it's hers so I let her do what she wants. Last night after her shower she asked me to trim/shave her. She wanted a little hair left around the opening - she says it actually feels better when something is touching down there, so that area was trimmed pretty short. The rest was removed. As I'm finishing up and cleaning up, she causally mentions that she has been talking to some girlfriends. They get waxed down there and she is considering it. Well, that got me excited pretty quickly. I told her if she did that I wouldn't be able to keep my hands and mouth off of it. She smiled, gave me a kiss, and told me good night.

I've been thinking about her repeated questions and the comment about waxing. I couldn't handle it anymore! This morning I sent her a text that said "While it's 100% up to you and we could talk about it, I think I like me better "with." She replied "That's good. I support you." Just a bit confused, I replied " good=yes, good=we'll talk about it?" She replied, "Yes to your decision and we can talk about it if you'd like."

So, now I'm headed home to lock back up and leave her the keys. I have no idea what is next or for how long.

On we go....
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I had two days of hiking planned over the weekend with a total mileage of just over 26 miles. I DID NOT want to do that wearing a cage, so I was allowed to take it off.

I’ve been free since Friday evening, and no mention was made of putting it back on after my return. I REALLY want her to decide it’s what she wants and TELL me or better yet - have her put the device back on me.

I did some quick math. We went from zero to all in! From August 1st, 2021 to April 1st, 2022, I was in chastity a total of 230 days. I only spent 13 days free and most of that was the 10 days last month.

I’m determined to wait and see how long it takes her to tell me to lock up without me mentioning anything about chastity. I want her to desire it. I’ll keep you posted.

On we go….
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Please keep us up to date. Such a good read. I am currently locked but my wife is showing little interest unfortunately.
I am so jealous of you guys 🥰. Have fun.