Trying to convince your keyholder?
Posted: Fri Apr 21, 2017 12:12 pm
For anyone out there who is relatively new to chastity or is having troubles convincing their significant other to hold their key the best advice I can give you is patience.
The first year relationship with my fiance she was not too interested in being my key holder. I would usually have to lock myself up and hand her the key which she would often just leave laying around on the coffee table or thrown in her purse. When she would unlock me for sex she would never put the cage back on I would always have to take it upon myself to do it. I basically had to be the key holder coach for the first year.
It's all about establishing the norm. Everyday she saw me wearing the cage and everyday she felt it against her when we hugged and I never took it off unless she wanted my penis for sex. In the beginning she would always offer me to have an orgasm and I would have to coach her and remind her that I'm only supposed to get one a week. And then after some time she would stop offering me the opportunity to finish but if I ever ask or beg she would often give in. After some time I convinced her to only let me have an orgasm once a month but again she would often feel bad and she would not enforce my denial. But little by little it became the norm and then one day I forgot to put the cage back on after sex and the next day she noticed that it was not on and then all of a sudden it clicked in her head that she got so used to me being locked up without her really giving any excessive effort and most of the time not really wanting to do it but I didn't bother her or push her I just kinda did it on my own and let it become a normal part of our life and now if I don't have the cage on it's abnormal. For me to have an orgasm more than once a month is abnormal. And of course all of the positive changes that happened in a relationship when a guy doesn't have orgasms she eventually saw the contrast and saw the benefits of denying me.
About a year-and-a-half into all of this she finally took complete control on her own. I am always locked up in the cage does not come off unless she wants my penis for sex. She started asserting her authority and taking full advantage of her control. She always kind of enjoyed physically torturing me because I'm a masochist and she's a little bit of a sadist but that just grew and Amplified throughout this process. Previous six months she has taken all of the knowledge and experience and Fantasies that I've talked and conveyed to her and she started taking it even further then what I ever imagined. She now has complete control. my previous record was 66 days of denial. It has been made very clear to me that the absolute soonest I will be having an orgasm will be one year. That started 76 days ago. The part that really gets me excited but also slightly scared at the same time is that she's made it very clear that she does not care at all about my physical sexual satisfaction. (This is a good thing in regards to me being a physical and psychological masochist)she does not want me to have any sexual stimulation on my penis anymore. She's more into the anal aspect but she says that if she can not care about me having an orgasm for three months then not caring about me having an orgasm for a year should be easy and why would she care if I have an orgasm after a year. So even though she's telling me I might get one after a year she's pretty much made it clear that I won't be getting any more at all.
In conclusion, the first year I had to beg and plead for the simplest things but I established a normal standard and it grew on her little by little and I remained patient because I love her that much and I wanted her to enjoy this in some way. It took well over a year but now she has not only met all of my fantasies and desires but she has far exceeded my expectations and so far I'm not regretting them LOL but I do think I'm teetering when the edge of regret
The first year relationship with my fiance she was not too interested in being my key holder. I would usually have to lock myself up and hand her the key which she would often just leave laying around on the coffee table or thrown in her purse. When she would unlock me for sex she would never put the cage back on I would always have to take it upon myself to do it. I basically had to be the key holder coach for the first year.
It's all about establishing the norm. Everyday she saw me wearing the cage and everyday she felt it against her when we hugged and I never took it off unless she wanted my penis for sex. In the beginning she would always offer me to have an orgasm and I would have to coach her and remind her that I'm only supposed to get one a week. And then after some time she would stop offering me the opportunity to finish but if I ever ask or beg she would often give in. After some time I convinced her to only let me have an orgasm once a month but again she would often feel bad and she would not enforce my denial. But little by little it became the norm and then one day I forgot to put the cage back on after sex and the next day she noticed that it was not on and then all of a sudden it clicked in her head that she got so used to me being locked up without her really giving any excessive effort and most of the time not really wanting to do it but I didn't bother her or push her I just kinda did it on my own and let it become a normal part of our life and now if I don't have the cage on it's abnormal. For me to have an orgasm more than once a month is abnormal. And of course all of the positive changes that happened in a relationship when a guy doesn't have orgasms she eventually saw the contrast and saw the benefits of denying me.
About a year-and-a-half into all of this she finally took complete control on her own. I am always locked up in the cage does not come off unless she wants my penis for sex. She started asserting her authority and taking full advantage of her control. She always kind of enjoyed physically torturing me because I'm a masochist and she's a little bit of a sadist but that just grew and Amplified throughout this process. Previous six months she has taken all of the knowledge and experience and Fantasies that I've talked and conveyed to her and she started taking it even further then what I ever imagined. She now has complete control. my previous record was 66 days of denial. It has been made very clear to me that the absolute soonest I will be having an orgasm will be one year. That started 76 days ago. The part that really gets me excited but also slightly scared at the same time is that she's made it very clear that she does not care at all about my physical sexual satisfaction. (This is a good thing in regards to me being a physical and psychological masochist)she does not want me to have any sexual stimulation on my penis anymore. She's more into the anal aspect but she says that if she can not care about me having an orgasm for three months then not caring about me having an orgasm for a year should be easy and why would she care if I have an orgasm after a year. So even though she's telling me I might get one after a year she's pretty much made it clear that I won't be getting any more at all.
In conclusion, the first year I had to beg and plead for the simplest things but I established a normal standard and it grew on her little by little and I remained patient because I love her that much and I wanted her to enjoy this in some way. It took well over a year but now she has not only met all of my fantasies and desires but she has far exceeded my expectations and so far I'm not regretting them LOL but I do think I'm teetering when the edge of regret