At about 6:30 PM LRC called me over to where she was setting. She asked me when I was starting supper. I told her in about 15 minutes. She then opened her hand and said "I was going to unlock you but I'll wait until after supper". Then she set the key on the table beside her. After supper and everything was cleaned, I waited quietly for her to call me again. I didn't remind her about the offer to be unlocked. As of this posting she hasn’t yet but, the dam key is still on the table beside her. This is another way she has found to tease me. Last night the key was shown and I was out for play time, tonight no. I’m not complaining, well maybe, it’s what she has found that I'm happy for.
When we started chastity 10 months ago if I stood in front of her and said I needed to be unlocked she would. Now I may as well talk to the wall. After our talk a couple of months ago she has become more comfortable with this and I’m actually happy about it. As stated in a previous thread, LRC is the old fashioned type that believed whatever the man said and wanted it was her duty to comply.
The whole point of this is for people that are just starting chastity don’t get discouraged. What I envisioned how it was going to flow was different than the reality. I will also admit to something else that was unexpected. My love for LRC has increased as much in the last ten months as it did in the first ten months that I knew her. I wonder if this love growth is common with others starting chastity?
Chastity's Path
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Re: Chastity's Path
I've always been in love with my husband but I do think that chastity has brought a new intensity and focus, yes. And you're right, the journey isn't always what you expect but I am loving the direction that it is going.
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a couple's explorations with a chaste life, from the wife's point of view
Dev's Gallery
my stash of good looking men
Keyheld: Chastity Resources for Lovers
Re: Chastity's Path
"What I envisioned how it was going to flow was different than the reality."
Amen, brother. It's different for everyone and, always it seems, NOT what you think it was going to be when you started.
Amen, brother. It's different for everyone and, always it seems, NOT what you think it was going to be when you started.
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Is also allowed to wear: Mature Metal Jailbird, Steelworxx Looker 02
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Is also allowed to wear: Mature Metal Jailbird, Steelworxx Looker 02
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Re: Chastity's Path
I concur.
I have been "testing" my wife lately because I have grown weary of wearing my device. I have been wanting to see if she'd still have sex while I was unlocked. Well, JUST this morning it became explicitly clear that she would not have ANY sort of sexual contact with me unless I am locked. She says that doing so would risk my accidental ejaculation.
Who knows precisely what my wife has in mind, but one this is for certain--just like LRC, Thumper, and Dev say: Chastity is beginning to take HER path....
As someone once said, real chastity doesn't begin until the man wants it to end.
David
I have been "testing" my wife lately because I have grown weary of wearing my device. I have been wanting to see if she'd still have sex while I was unlocked. Well, JUST this morning it became explicitly clear that she would not have ANY sort of sexual contact with me unless I am locked. She says that doing so would risk my accidental ejaculation.
Who knows precisely what my wife has in mind, but one this is for certain--just like LRC, Thumper, and Dev say: Chastity is beginning to take HER path....
As someone once said, real chastity doesn't begin until the man wants it to end.
David
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Thanks for the encouragement; it is well-timed. I'm currently trying to work thorough how to do this in more of a "real life" way (as opposed to just short playtimes, which have been going great). At first he seemed to really want to ramp it up. Now, I'm not so sure about that, or whether I/we even can.
My own issue is that Lukus can be a fairly moody fellow, and this is challenging enough for me in our day to day life. I don't want to be codependent, but it is tough not to worry about my sweetheart when he is unhappy! It's hard enough not to let myself get drawn into his mood as it is. Adding the responsibility I would have if he were in chastity just feels impossible sometimes.
My own issue is that Lukus can be a fairly moody fellow, and this is challenging enough for me in our day to day life. I don't want to be codependent, but it is tough not to worry about my sweetheart when he is unhappy! It's hard enough not to let myself get drawn into his mood as it is. Adding the responsibility I would have if he were in chastity just feels impossible sometimes.
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Hi Kiki
Our largest hurdle has been the female’s concern for the male. This has been an education for me and I always took this aspect of our relationship for granted, until recently. We started out with chastity as a playtime and decided about a year ago to try it fulltime. I don’t remember how many times the first few month’s I said “What do YOU want”. It took many months for her to feel comfortable with saying “Too bad”. Now she doesn’t care when I bring up how long it’s been since the last freedom from the cage or the last orgasm. This is what I desired from all of this and even if I complain she knows that deep down I am happy with “Too bad”.
If you haven't read it yet, I have a thread in the Member Lounge titled Old Fashioned Wife. I talked about LRC's concern for me and some of the other ladies gave good thought's that LRC read and found helpful. She's still to shy to become a member but, I keep encouraging her to join.
Our largest hurdle has been the female’s concern for the male. This has been an education for me and I always took this aspect of our relationship for granted, until recently. We started out with chastity as a playtime and decided about a year ago to try it fulltime. I don’t remember how many times the first few month’s I said “What do YOU want”. It took many months for her to feel comfortable with saying “Too bad”. Now she doesn’t care when I bring up how long it’s been since the last freedom from the cage or the last orgasm. This is what I desired from all of this and even if I complain she knows that deep down I am happy with “Too bad”.
If you haven't read it yet, I have a thread in the Member Lounge titled Old Fashioned Wife. I talked about LRC's concern for me and some of the other ladies gave good thought's that LRC read and found helpful. She's still to shy to become a member but, I keep encouraging her to join.
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Re: Chastity's Path
When we had THE chat I made it clear to her that I wanted no say in when I went in or came out of the device. I committed to forego contact with my penis when it became erect. My advice to her at the time was to treat it like a pet that would sometimes need to be played with or kenneled. She soon added that I would not be permitted to initiate sex in any way whilst in chastity.
The next few months were spent seeing how well it stood up to the realities of our life. It soon became apparent that flowers, cards and coffee meets were more pleasing to her than doing the tidying up and washing (probably because it's old news to us; I took a career break to raise our kids pre-school). I found the person that I fell in love with in the 80's and as she got used to having me interested in HER again she also defined her game.
It's become obvious that fucking with me is far more fun for her than fucking me. In the early days she clarified with me "So I lock you up and you won't ask for sex, paw my ass in bed or do anything unless I tell you?". She then chuckled "You are going to be spending so many nights locked up!!". I changed the lock to one that was more discreet and comfortable and she was genuinely miffed for not being consulted. My first full week in the device sure wasn't a week I'd have chosen either.
We've discussed tattoos: a chatelaine on her right hip and a Franciscan cincture on mine, we've evolved an etiquette and language that is thus far unnoticed by family and friends. She says she loves it but feels like it's a cop-out on her part. I'm still waiting to screw it up massively as I can't believe that after all the years of trying it's finally happened.
I probably had 6 orgasms a week in January. I've had 6 authorised (and 2 accidents) since and I remember every stroke of each of them but it's not the sex that is the biggest thrill for me. There is a look she gets, an almost evil twinkle in her eyes when she knows that I'm going to do exactly what she says; it's intoxicating.
She will resist all attempts by myself to steer her hand. My behaviour is expected to be of a high standard
The next few months were spent seeing how well it stood up to the realities of our life. It soon became apparent that flowers, cards and coffee meets were more pleasing to her than doing the tidying up and washing (probably because it's old news to us; I took a career break to raise our kids pre-school). I found the person that I fell in love with in the 80's and as she got used to having me interested in HER again she also defined her game.
It's become obvious that fucking with me is far more fun for her than fucking me. In the early days she clarified with me "So I lock you up and you won't ask for sex, paw my ass in bed or do anything unless I tell you?". She then chuckled "You are going to be spending so many nights locked up!!". I changed the lock to one that was more discreet and comfortable and she was genuinely miffed for not being consulted. My first full week in the device sure wasn't a week I'd have chosen either.
We've discussed tattoos: a chatelaine on her right hip and a Franciscan cincture on mine, we've evolved an etiquette and language that is thus far unnoticed by family and friends. She says she loves it but feels like it's a cop-out on her part. I'm still waiting to screw it up massively as I can't believe that after all the years of trying it's finally happened.
I probably had 6 orgasms a week in January. I've had 6 authorised (and 2 accidents) since and I remember every stroke of each of them but it's not the sex that is the biggest thrill for me. There is a look she gets, an almost evil twinkle in her eyes when she knows that I'm going to do exactly what she says; it's intoxicating.
She will resist all attempts by myself to steer her hand. My behaviour is expected to be of a high standard
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poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another
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Sorry the end has gone wonky. I'm on an iPhone and can't edit down that far. I'll tidy it up next time I'm around a PC.
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poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another
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That is funny. I actually took a vow of chastity as a Franciscan Tertiary. Unfortunately the community broke up soon after so I no longer live under three-fold rule of " simplicity / chastity / obedience " at least not in quite the same way.poor wrote:a Franciscan cincture on mine,
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I thought it was a perfect tattoo for me. I've always enjoyed tying knots (of which rope bondage is naturally a part) but the *poverty/chastity/obedience symbology would be lost on most people. At the moment there is always something else to spend the money on (including the Steelheart 
) but it's going to be done.
*my understanding
) but it's going to be done.*my understanding
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poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another