David's Year of Orgasm Denial

[davidphd1866]

Hello Everyone,

Well, based on suggestions from the Forum Members (especially Dev) today was my last orgasm for a full year. More on that in a moment, but first I'd like to reiterate the intention of this thread. Please consider this "Case Study" an interactive exchange into my year of chastity. Unlike a blog where a couple shares their experiences--and that is already being very nicely done by the likes of Dev, Sarah Jameson, Thumper, et al--I hope this thread is more of a chance for members to directly influence a husband being held chaste by his wife.

As such, I ask that you all help hold me accountable, make appropriate requests, ask for relevant statisics, participate in experiments, etc., etc. (For example, I am guessing I may have to demonstrate that I am actually locked, show that my wife is really participating, and the like. Maybe this would be through photos or something, but the key is getting other's input.)

Regarding that orgasm: Dev suggested that I have one last orgasm before getting locked up. Her interest being in finding out what the mind does when you know your orgasm is going to be the last one for a very long time. Boy! Was she right! I had the discussion with my wife yesterday and told her of the group's preference that I cum prior to beginning the year. She said she'd mull it over and decide today what to do. (Sunday) Her decision was to give me a handjob to completion.

The feelings involved were very revealing: First, the handjob was sort of a perfunctory one. My wife really doesn't derive much pleasure from my orgasm so her actions were more in the spirit of starting the clock at "zero" for the year. Second, I'd like to tell everyong that the orgam was "mind blowing". It was very good, but hardly mind blowing. Even though my last one was about two weeks ago, this one was fairly ordinary (still very enjoyable, though) Third, I can hardly explain the feelings that go through one's mind when getting stroked and you know it's going to be the last time for the next 12 months. Do I try to make it last? Did my wife try to hurry it up? Well, for the record, I just barely lasted longer than what many would consider a pre mature ejaculation. I'd say within two minutes I was coating my belly with semen. My wife quickly got up and soon we were on our way for a bike ride. It's amazing, when you don't really have control over your orgams, knowing what lays ahead does little to change things. She MADE me cum on her schedule...that's all there was to it.

Now for the part where Dev strongly recommended I cum: What a cunning idea! Now here I write this with a post-orgasmic low. (all you men out there know what I am talking about) This low makes me hesitant to get locked up, wondering if I should sneak in a masturbation session without my wife's knowledge, considering changing the start date to next month and so on and so on. Trust me, signing up for a year's worth of chastity is 1000% harder immediately after cumming. That horny buzz is gone (for the moment) and "reason" is jumping out of my brain. Man, it would have been much easier to start this year withOUT cumming.

But, what sort of man would I be if I backed out now? So here goes.....a full year with the lock up starting tomorrow morning. (Nov. 1st)

Thank you all in advance for your support and participation.

David

[RoadWarrior]

David.
Frankly, I think you're rushing headlong into this without giving it the thought it deserves.

I'm not sure how this works. Has your wife posted here? Your post left me feeling that she's not fully engaged. There's a "communication gap" going on and I don't mean just between you and the people here. I wish you the best but I don't think you are prepared for what is going to emerge. But thanks anyway.

[thumper]

Your post left me feeling that she's not fully engaged.

I picked up on that as well.

[Belle]

Your post left me feeling that she's not fully engaged.

I picked up on that as well.

From the standpoint of a keyholder I have to agree. Is she receptive to playing, or is this a year of celibacy instead of chastity?

[davidphd1866]

Hello Group,

Good feedback. You are correct in your reactions. Agreed, as far as this forum goes and online stuff in general, that is NOT my wife's area of interest or participation.

But as far as a discussion about chastity and the goal of a year, she and I have had numerous discussions. In fact, it was her idea. When I asked her what she'd like to see as a result of our chastity play, her reply was, "I'd love to see what happens with a full year."

Is she ready? Am I ready? Who knows. I believe the point is that we are making the attempt. The feedback of the group BEFORE we got started was "Godspeed". Now it is a bit different. I am not sure what that means. Either way, we are making the attempt. The purpose of sharing it with the group is to become a "living laboratory" for male chastity--a guinea pig, if you will.

Perhaps this exercise has proven effective already. Before making the attempt, there were over twenty repsonses to the positive. Once it has begun, there are concerns about communication. Fascinating.

However, your points are well taken--communication is a most important aspect to chastity play.

More to come.

David

[EDAS]

But one question remains in my (male) mind: will your wife be having sex, be it via orgasms that you will give her or that she will give herself? I guess my question is this: is your wife interested in sex at all? If she is not interested, then is it that she sees this year of chastity as a way to finally get some peace and quiet on the sexual front? That is, you will no longer bother her with your sexual needs for the next 12 months...

[Dev]

Interesting question, Edas.

David...to get this going, why don't you tell us a little bit more about yourself and your wife. I know you live in Los Angeles and have been playing with chastity for a while. But exactly how long? The fact that you want to do this as a case study and collect data suggests to me you have some sort of scientific background. Anything about your job, life, etc., that you want to share? (I don't want you to get too personal--share what is comfortable.)

Also, what sort of a device are you wearing?

D

[justplaying]

David;

I think knowing more about you and your Key Holder (wife) is a good idea. Maybe the group won't feel like they have to protect you from potential harm. I agree that at first blush the comments after your started, seemed like you were being criticized, but it also means that you have some seasoned pros who have gone through long term chastity and it doesn't appear to be a breeze, so they don't want you or your wife to get hurt. At least that's the way I see it.

Here are some suggestions for the experiment:

1. Have both you and your wife make a list of what you expect to get out of this year long trial. Include your hypothesis if you like, since it is an experiment right?
2. Make another list of things that concern you about the whole project.
3. Keep a log of every conversation you and your Key Holder have about the project. Please include, Time of Day, Duration, Topics discussed, Situation (over drinks, diner, in bed etc.)
4. Study session on the Role of a Key Holder.

That's all I have.

Good Luck!

[Shane67]

David,

I guess what some of us picked up on was your wife's reaction to your last orgasm for a year. I guess it was surprising that it was so perfunctory, "Ok dear, that's it for year. Let's get on with our weekend." Was there no acknowledgment from her that you're not going to have another orgasm for year? That for most guys, no orgasms for a year is a rather big deal?

Shane

[jnuts]

Exactly!