Another year in chastity

[Atone]

I recently finished my second year in chastity. You can read a little about my first year in this thread http://chastityforums.com/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=10086

This year has been absolutely fabulous. It took a while but I have finally settled in on just one device and haven't had a need or desire to make a change in a long time now. Similar to the first year I spent almost the entire year locked, this time in a Steelheart most of the time.

I don't remember why right now but I was unlocked for a week or so while on vacation last August, but not allowed to touch and certainly wasn't allowed an orgasm. During that week I had one of the best non-orgasm's ever. Short version is my wife climbed on top of me and rode me for a little while (I wouldn't last long) and then pulled out her vibrator and got herself off while still straddling my extremely hard cock. It was absolutely amazing.

I had two ruined orgasm's last fall, nothing special but definitely ruined. This spring I was let out for a couple of overnight trips that involved close quarters with others so there was no fooling around going on. I was also out for a 5 day solo international trip. I was good in that I didn't masturbate to an orgasm but I did play with myself on a couple of occasions, once for quite a while. I was honest when I returned home but my wife was still not happy with that as I was supposed to not touch at all as part an agreed upon long term "no play' period. That was restarted with some additional conditions as soon as I returned. I have not been unlocked since then, that was 68 days ago. This is the longest I have ever gone without removing the device and I have at least 23 more days to go. And that is just to be let out for some stimulation, I don't see an orgasm on the horizon. Somewhere around day 55 I got to where I just wanted out really bad, I was going a little nuts trying to get any stimulation I could. Leaning against the washing machine was good and yes, I am one of those who got locked in chastity and now does most of the household chores. When I told my wife how bad I wanted out she suggested that maybe I am learning my lesson not to disobey her desires. I don't know if she buys in to it as much as it seems but she plays the role well if she doesn't.

My birthday was last week. While we were laying in bed spending a little intimate time together I asked my wife if she knew when the last time I had an orgasm was. Her response was "no but I am sure you do". I let her know that my last orgasm was on my last birthday. She said "it's been that long? Too bad you're not getting one tonight".

The funny thing to me is that even after over a year without an orgasm I am not really craving one. What I am craving more than anything right now is just to be allowed out to have a little touch. Lately just watching my wife use the vibrator on herself (this has been her favorite activity lately) has been a relief and I don't even get to touch her. She is out right now but before she left she told me she was feeling frisky and might wake me up when she gets home so I can watch.

Anyway, not a very exciting year but very satisfying for me. Thanks again to everyone on this board, you have helped make this a great experience.

[locked4her55]

I don't know if she buys in to it as much as it seems but she plays the role well if she doesn't.

"Too bad you're not getting one tonight".

I have been having some of these very same thoughts and comments from my wife lately too. Is she really getting into this lifestyle or just doing it to appease me?

Anyway, it sounds like you're happy and hopefully she is too

[Atone]

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I have been having some of these very same thoughts and comments from my wife lately too. Is she really getting into this lifestyle or just doing it to appease me?

I think it is both for us. My wife is totally on board for not allowing me orgasms. She saw the benefit right away and likes it. She does the locking up for me, she would prefer the honor system if that would work (it wouldn't).

[J Random reader]

I recently finished my second year in chastity.

& what follows is incredible. A no hitter.

I was unlocked for a week or so while on vacation last August

Almost a year ago.

my wife was still not happy with that as I was supposed to not touch at all as part an agreed upon long term "no play' period.

That seems extreme to me. Not that you weren't supposed to touch. The misses waffles on this. She once asked me the same when traveling. It's a pretty strict diet you're on there. Was that when you tried tucking? Did I lead you astray?

that was 68 days ago. This is the longest I have ever gone without removing the device and I have at least 23 more days to go.

68 + 23 makes 91. 13 weeks. Or three months. Coincidence? You set dates & goals?

My birthday was last week. While we were laying in bed spending a little intimate time together I asked my wife if she knew when the last time I had an orgasm was. Her response was "no but I am sure you do". I let her know that my last orgasm was on my last birthday. She said "it's been that long? Too bad you're not getting one tonight".

Wow. She's got a mouth on her! Love a woman with a sense of humor. Hope she was just funning you. Does she really not know?

What I am craving more than anything right now is just to be allowed out to have a little touch. ... and I don't even get to touch her.

You OK with it? Craving to touch her & not getting to?

Anyway, not a very exciting year but very satisfying for me. Thanks again to everyone on this board, you have helped make this a great experience.

I gots questionz. But did you post that before chastity twice a month was typical? I tried to find where. Your first year you had six breaks. I added up your numbers. & get 362. & your last orgasm was your birthday first week of July 2011. You started counting before July 9 2010? Was there denial before the device?

Second year's a no-hitter. & it's not over. How did you start two years ago? You wrote "Chastity came along at just the right time in our relationship". Can you tell us more about your journey?

Why does she want you orgasm free? So you will learn your lesson "not to disobey her desires"?

[Atone]

It is extreme but it is what we found we like. Very early on we determined that being "out" for teasing worked best if we waited at least a couple of weeks, this quickly grew to about a month. I don't even remember exactly how we ended up with 91 days but it was after a longer lockup. I was to be unlocked for a short play and then right back in for a month. Somehow two months got added to that, I think it was the result of a bet. I'm not even sure if I won or I lost My wife isn't too hung up on the interval (as long as it isn't too short) but once an agreement is made she sticks to it. There are usually other non sexual aspects to the agreement as well but I don't usually mention that here.

It was on that trip that I tried to "tuck" but that isn't what lead me astray. I still wish I could have got that to work better.

Sometimes her comments really hit my buttons like that one. I think she usually says them the way she does for my benefit although the sentiment behind it was hers.

I'm ok with not being allowed to touch as long as it is in the context of our mutual agreement. Just to be clear the "no touch" period was no touching of me, I can always ask to touch her. Like someone mentioned in another thread being allowed to just watch her masturbate is a tease of its own.

Not sure what you mean about "before chastity twice a month was typical?" There was no denial before July 9 2010. My Birthday was a few days before that so on July 9 this year it had been 366 days (this was a leap year) plus the few days back to my birthday.

I had a nice post on the old forum about how we got started, unfortunately it was lost when that forum died. Maybe I will try to recreate it in the journey section.

She doesn't keep me orgasm free for me to learn my lesson. She is keeping me locked up for that It was a mutually negotiated agreement. We looked at the situation and determined what the logical and reasonable consequence should be. One element of that was that the 91 day period would start over. There were some other things as well at least one of which will probably not be met before the 91 days is up. If that is the case then it will be extended until it is.

She likes having me orgasm free because she doesn't like my attitude after I have an orgasm. Even before chastity she would comment about how she thought I would be happier the day(s) after we had sex. Our very first chastity cycle was 45 days. After I had an orgasm I tried really hard not to behave different but she still noticed it. This was before I even mentioned anything to her about the post orgasm drop. It didn't take her very long to get on board for her benefit (she immediately accommodated my request to get a male chastity device).

If you have more questions feel free to ask away (or PM). Thanks for your comments.

[celticqueens_sub]

I recently finished my second year in chastity. You can read a little about my first year in this thread http://chastityforums.com/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=10086

This year has been absolutely fabulous. It took a while but I have finally settled in on just one device and haven't had a need or desire to make a change in a long time now. Similar to the first year I spent almost the entire year locked, this time in a Steelheart most of the time.

I don't remember why right now but I was unlocked for a week or so while on vacation last August, but not allowed to touch and certainly wasn't allowed an orgasm. During that week I had one of the best non-orgasm's ever. Short version is my wife climbed on top of me and rode me for a little while (I wouldn't last long) and then pulled out her vibrator and got herself off while still straddling my extremely hard cock. It was absolutely amazing.

I had two ruined orgasm's last fall, nothing special but definitely ruined. This spring I was let out for a couple of overnight trips that involved close quarters with others so there was no fooling around going on. I was also out for a 5 day solo international trip. I was good in that I didn't masturbate to an orgasm but I did play with myself on a couple of occasions, once for quite a while. I was honest when I returned home but my wife was still not happy with that as I was supposed to not touch at all as part an agreed upon long term "no play' period. That was restarted with some additional conditions as soon as I returned. I have not been unlocked since then, that was 68 days ago. This is the longest I have ever gone without removing the device and I have at least 23 more days to go. And that is just to be let out for some stimulation, I don't see an orgasm on the horizon. Somewhere around day 55 I got to where I just wanted out really bad, I was going a little nuts trying to get any stimulation I could. Leaning against the washing machine was good and yes, I am one of those who got locked in chastity and now does most of the household chores. When I told my wife how bad I wanted out she suggested that maybe I am learning my lesson not to disobey her desires. I don't know if she buys in to it as much as it seems but she plays the role well if she doesn't.

My birthday was last week. While we were laying in bed spending a little intimate time together I asked my wife if she knew when the last time I had an orgasm was. Her response was "no but I am sure you do". I let her know that my last orgasm was on my last birthday. She said "it's been that long? Too bad you're not getting one tonight".

The funny thing to me is that even after over a year without an orgasm I am not really craving one. What I am craving more than anything right now is just to be allowed out to have a little touch. Lately just watching my wife use the vibrator on herself (this has been her favorite activity lately) has been a relief and I don't even get to touch her. She is out right now but before she left she told me she was feeling frisky and might wake me up when she gets home so I can watch.

Anyway, not a very exciting year but very satisfying for me. Thanks again to everyone on this board, you have helped make this a great experience.

Hi Atone, don't know how I missed this post, but awesome stuff!

[Atone]

Hi Atone, don't know how I missed this post, but awesome stuff!

Thanks, it has been an awesome year.

I am looking forward to what the next year will bring. One half of me thinks I might go another year (that would be the above the waist half). The other side is ready for a change. I certainly don't want to go back to the pre chastity days but maybe more like the first year.

The third year will probably also be pivotal. Looking back over my life I have a bunch of major "hobbies" or more accurately major interests that lasted about three years. Only a few that consistently lasted longer than that. Right now I feel this has stamina but time will tell.

[wishful4]

I also wonder, from time to time, how long this will last, and what will come next (when I'm not thinking about when I will cum next). We are so slow that she is still in the discovery phase, so I am hopeful it will last for awhile. Things are going well now so I'm thinking that I will just let happen whatever happens and see how it goes. I have already made the mistake of trying to steer her in a certain direction or "top from the bottom", and that did not work well.