A different journey this time

[jnuts]

I’ve been lurking the last couple of days. It has been a while.

Belle and I have been through a lot in the past few years and Chastity hasn’t been on the menu. From discovering that I was a porn/sex addict to coming to the conclusion that I am quite possibly also bi-sexual, it has been a ride. We did some therapy for a while, got better, got blah, and now a little lost.

I have decided to jump into chastity again but in a different way. I’m doing it alone. I’m tired of the depression that follows masturbation, and Belle’s extremely low sex drive means that the canyon between us is too far to bridge.

I’m going into this with a different mindset. I don’t want to lock up for the kink factor, but to ‘put it away’. I know how difficult that is likely to be but I’m going to give it a shot.

I had a jailbird that was too large and a contender that was just about right. Somehow when we moved a couple years ago, the cage for the contender disappeared...awkward...so I am in the market. I have read a lot of good things about dhgate devices on here and I’m contemplating that route. Possibly checking out the cherry keeper route as well. Not sure yet.

In the meantime it will be the honor system, which might be better to start anyway because the device often seems to call attention to the situation and make me horny which is what I would like to avoid.

I am also considering taking an herbal supplement that my one therapist advised me to take. I discontinued it when I found that it muted my orgasms. Doesn’t sound like such a bad thing now.

I’m fairly certain that chastity either started or worsened my sex addiction in the first place, and understand this may well backfire, but I’m hoping maybe without the tease, the denial will have a different effect.

[TwistedMister]

Welcome back, looks like it's been a few years.

[Tom Allen]

@jnuts
Hey!
I'll agree... Locking up one's equipment often just makes you focus on it more. But it's certainly worth a shot.

[jnuts]

@jnuts
Hey!
I'll agree... Locking up one's equipment often just makes you focus on it more. But it's certainly worth a shot.

I know. Still has me debating on what to do. I think a lot of it has to do with expectations too. If you are locking up expecting to be teased, the device teases you even when your KH is not. I’m wondering if going into it with a different purpose and expectation in mind will make things different. Will be an interesting experiment I guess.

[evanknox1]

@jnuts
I also found that initially, locking up the junk drew my attention to it, physically and mentally. The honour system didn't work for me, as I have no self discipline when it comes such matters. So, it was back to locking up, which is a better option for me. I hope you find a solution that works for you.
Best of luck on your journey

[jnuts]

I ordered a Cherry Keeper last night. I’m hoping it works as well as the reviews say. The lighter weight and ability to make things stay put will go a long way towards setting it and forget it if I can get the size right.

[Lockhubbybywife]

I ordered a Cherry Keeper last night. I’m hoping it works as well as the reviews say. The lighter weight and ability to make things stay put will go a long way towards setting it and forget it if I can get the size right.

Did you get the headlock?
I don't turtle or slip out, you can even get the permalock. That way you are stuck in chastity until you drill yourself out.

[jnuts]

Yes I got a short with a large headlock.

I saw the permalocks but with my luck I would drill through the device or something even more fragile. Keeping locked up has never been a problem for me anyway. I have always hd a copy of my key for emergencies. Cheating always seemed to defeat the purpose when I was the one asking for it.

[Belle]

So like a typical woman I thrown a monkey wrench into his plans. When he told me about his plans to do chastity on his own, I was sure what to think. At first I was okay with it, being that I am constantly busy with some aspect of work or children, then I kinda became sad. I don’t want to not be a part of such a large part of his life. I know when the new device comes I am going to want to play with it…so here we go again! Keyholding is difficult for me, so I was looking for inspiration and ended up back here at my old “home”.

[Tom Allen]

@Belle Welcome back!
This place hasn't changed much. New names, but the same comfortable ambiance