[DrPinotNoir] 30 year Marriage, She is Asexual. I masturbate a ton. Marriage almost dead. Then chastity came
Posted: Sun Mar 20, 2022 8:36 am
So it is about time to write this down, new reader.
Chastity is working, It is working in a way that WE both never anticipated. (But if you read enough books and read enough of these blog posts you will find that our story isnt unique. It seems to be PRETTY common.
It has been a wild journey with ups and downs and I am sure there are more to come. Me getting mad because chastity wasnt "How I wanted it". She started off with Zero interest in fact probably NEGATIVE interest because this was just more for her to deal with, it was MORE sexual pressure and horrible in her eyes. There were a LOT of things she didnt want to do but experimenting with that chastity cage fixed our marriage like no amount of books or visits to the psychologist were going to do. (That may have worked if we found a good one but after 5 we gave up)
Chastity was transformative. I am a completely different person or maybe, just maybe I have become again the person I used to be when she met me after 30 years of
got us to the place where every marriage paradoxically seems to be; definitely still love each other but bored, boring and not sexy at all...
Back in 2019 pre-chastity. we used to be "roomates passing each other in the hallway" hardly doing more than a grunt of acknowledgment. or a kiss that we both felt we should do but we both didnt feel that tingle.
Now, She loves it and does something by her own doing that is amazing. Lock me in a cage and suddently my focus goes from masturbating to porn stars to wanting to hug and kiss my wife. we have exactly the kind of relationship we both want. (I can pick the lock on any of those burg wacher cylender locks in 3 seconds - I used to to sneak in a quick session when she wasnt watching) Contrast that with now where, She wears the mature metal jailbird key around her neck proudly and wouldnt even take it off when I sent it back for mods a couple days and I have ZERO desire to take this cage off the reward is too high.
Anyhow here we go. I guess there is no better place to start then at the beginning.
- Long time married Men, you can use the chastity cage yourself to change yourself into something that will make her curious. Is it manipulative? yes, but it is going to change you and for the better. That woman made you feel a way years ago that you vaguely remember. You remember it was great but you are like. How did we get here to this place where we barely connect anymore?
- Women, If you have a husband like me and read one book (There are tons out therewritten by women who used to be you), show up with a chastity cage and a key around your neck. You are here because you are curious and that is good. You can probably skip 2 years ahead in your relationship by facing your fears and buying a cage. I think you can have a marriage and sex life of your dreams that you control and love.
Chastity is working, It is working in a way that WE both never anticipated. (But if you read enough books and read enough of these blog posts you will find that our story isnt unique. It seems to be PRETTY common.
It has been a wild journey with ups and downs and I am sure there are more to come. Me getting mad because chastity wasnt "How I wanted it". She started off with Zero interest in fact probably NEGATIVE interest because this was just more for her to deal with, it was MORE sexual pressure and horrible in her eyes. There were a LOT of things she didnt want to do but experimenting with that chastity cage fixed our marriage like no amount of books or visits to the psychologist were going to do. (That may have worked if we found a good one but after 5 we gave up)
Chastity was transformative. I am a completely different person or maybe, just maybe I have become again the person I used to be when she met me after 30 years of
- kids
- jobs stress
- ups and downs of life
got us to the place where every marriage paradoxically seems to be; definitely still love each other but bored, boring and not sexy at all...
Back in 2019 pre-chastity. we used to be "roomates passing each other in the hallway" hardly doing more than a grunt of acknowledgment. or a kiss that we both felt we should do but we both didnt feel that tingle.
Now, She loves it and does something by her own doing that is amazing. Lock me in a cage and suddently my focus goes from masturbating to porn stars to wanting to hug and kiss my wife. we have exactly the kind of relationship we both want. (I can pick the lock on any of those burg wacher cylender locks in 3 seconds - I used to to sneak in a quick session when she wasnt watching) Contrast that with now where, She wears the mature metal jailbird key around her neck proudly and wouldnt even take it off when I sent it back for mods a couple days and I have ZERO desire to take this cage off the reward is too high.
Anyhow here we go. I guess there is no better place to start then at the beginning.