[smfang] She may want to give this a try
Posted: Sun Aug 08, 2021 4:50 pm
Brief background: We are mid 60's and have been married 15 years. In the last few years, her interest in sex has greatly declined due to health issues. I have always had a submissive streak and frequently fantasize about her being a tease and controlling my cock. Over the last couple of years, I have played with self-locking, putting the key in a kitchen safe. Lynn was aware of this and tolerated it, but didn't want to be involved. This takes a lot of the fun out of self-locking.
This brings me to the events of the last couple of days. I had been a jerk a couple days ago and had decided to self-lock for a few days as a personal punishment. Last evening, without really thinking about it, I was more affectionate than usual. She commented on my level of affection and jokingly said I was just doing it hoping to get laid. I replied that I knew that that wouldn't happen since I was locked up and the subject was dropped. When we went to bed, Lynn rolled over and started to make out with me, something that hasn't happened in a long time. We also started talking while I was gently caressing her. It was a very good conversation about the challenges that we are facing in our relationship. As part of this, we talked about how nice it was to cuddle and talk knowing that I am not able to escalate things. Eventually, we spooned and fell asleep. This was already a nice change for us.
The big surprise was this morning. She asked me to make her face mask solution and then backpedalled thinking that she was asking too much. I told her I would gladly do it and replied to her surprise by saying, "I am very agreeable when I am locked up." She thought for a second, "Well, maybe you should be locked up all the time." Without thinking I replied "OK, let's keep me locked up for a week and see how it goes." As I was getting up to make her mask, she said "OK, we should." Needless to say, I was stunned, excited and a little scared.
To clarify, I will not be locked up all the time. The previous night we had touched on the mechanics of my self-locking. Since I retired a while ago, I have been working hard to get in shape and every morning walk the dog and do some vigorous exercise. To avoid chafing and such issues, I will be unlocking in the morning for this exercise time. After I shower, I will be locking myself up, putting the key in the lock box and setting the timer so that I can get the key the next morning. Lynn isn't going to be involved in this new daily ritual which I am sure will make her more receptive to keeping me in long-term chastity. How is this different from my previous self-locking? Well, it will be regular - not an occasional thing and, more important, Lynn knowing I am locked and approving of it fits with my fantasies.
There is much that is still unclear about how this will play out. I am hoping it will not be a one-time thing, but the beginning of her wanting me in long-term chastity. We need to figure out together how (or if) I will get occasional releases if she feels I deserve it and I am sure other practical details. After fantasizing about being denied for so long, I don't know if the reality will be something that I will want in real-life. Time will tell. For now, I am excited that there may a good changes in the future.
This brings me to the events of the last couple of days. I had been a jerk a couple days ago and had decided to self-lock for a few days as a personal punishment. Last evening, without really thinking about it, I was more affectionate than usual. She commented on my level of affection and jokingly said I was just doing it hoping to get laid. I replied that I knew that that wouldn't happen since I was locked up and the subject was dropped. When we went to bed, Lynn rolled over and started to make out with me, something that hasn't happened in a long time. We also started talking while I was gently caressing her. It was a very good conversation about the challenges that we are facing in our relationship. As part of this, we talked about how nice it was to cuddle and talk knowing that I am not able to escalate things. Eventually, we spooned and fell asleep. This was already a nice change for us.
The big surprise was this morning. She asked me to make her face mask solution and then backpedalled thinking that she was asking too much. I told her I would gladly do it and replied to her surprise by saying, "I am very agreeable when I am locked up." She thought for a second, "Well, maybe you should be locked up all the time." Without thinking I replied "OK, let's keep me locked up for a week and see how it goes." As I was getting up to make her mask, she said "OK, we should." Needless to say, I was stunned, excited and a little scared.
To clarify, I will not be locked up all the time. The previous night we had touched on the mechanics of my self-locking. Since I retired a while ago, I have been working hard to get in shape and every morning walk the dog and do some vigorous exercise. To avoid chafing and such issues, I will be unlocking in the morning for this exercise time. After I shower, I will be locking myself up, putting the key in the lock box and setting the timer so that I can get the key the next morning. Lynn isn't going to be involved in this new daily ritual which I am sure will make her more receptive to keeping me in long-term chastity. How is this different from my previous self-locking? Well, it will be regular - not an occasional thing and, more important, Lynn knowing I am locked and approving of it fits with my fantasies.
There is much that is still unclear about how this will play out. I am hoping it will not be a one-time thing, but the beginning of her wanting me in long-term chastity. We need to figure out together how (or if) I will get occasional releases if she feels I deserve it and I am sure other practical details. After fantasizing about being denied for so long, I don't know if the reality will be something that I will want in real-life. Time will tell. For now, I am excited that there may a good changes in the future.