[vinylia] Journal of my chastity life with my wife.

[vinylia]

Hi,

This is my journal of my live in chastity. I have finally introduced a chastity cage to my wife on july 19th 2015. I have been thinking about it for at least 2 months before that day of how I should bring it up to her. I believe I have done it the right way since so far, its way better than I thought it would be. My wife is open minded by nature so I knew that if I had good reasons for wearing a cage she would agree. So one of the main reasons I told her were that I need control over my masturbation. And by having her control this would make me a more attentive husban, more patient, less lazy and that I would concentrate all my sexual need for her. Before I actually showed her my cage on July 19, we hade a few conversations about chastity so I knew a bit of how she would react to it.

So her reaction was very good. On that day during a nice dinner at home I gave her the two keys of my lock in a small box after eating. She was a bite surprised by everything and did not know how to react at first. She said to give her a minute to take it all in. Then she said that it was a good idea and that I will need to give her a bit of time to get used to all of this.

Will continue tomorrow.

[vinylia]

So to continue:

I then showed her my new cage and she laughed a little bit and found it very nice looking. We continued the evening talking about everything to do with chastity and all the things that she will benefit from me wearing a cage. She also mentioned to me that she doesn't promise that she will not tell her best friends about this since she is not good holding secrets like this. I told her that I was willing to take that chance since I was serious about this. She also mentioned that if she is the KH, I can't come to her an complain about my cage and ask for the key. She said that she is very busy at work and doesn't have the time to deal with managing complaint about something I brought up to her.

To give a little info about us, we have been together for the past 12 years and got married back in October 2014. I work on the road for a services company and she is the owner of a jewelry store since about a year. I always been a bit of a submissive men but since my wife is the owner of her shop, she has been evolving in to a more dominating person in her personal life and at work and I love it. The night I introduced her to my chastity cage, we also discussed that I had noticed changes in the way she talked and demanded things. Also that she is more direct, more demanding with me. She admitted that she also felt that she was more dominant with me and expected more of me with house work and others things. So I told my wife that I like that she is more dominant with me and that I hope that she will continue that way. She admitted that she felt a bit bad sometimes of how she treated me but our conversation helped making her feel better about it. So we both decided that I will be the one taking care of all the chores at home and making sure the house is always clean when she gets home.

So we ended the night by relaxing on the couch watching tv. She kept me locked for the night and we did not had sex. I was hoping we would but maybe she had a bit to much excitement for the night.

About our sex life. We have sex about once every two weeks. Sex is good but not the best. She is very dominant in bed and most of the time she has a few orgasmes and wants to stop before I get to have my orgasme. So that leaves me to masturbate in the morning amd every day.

So to foward a bit. For the past two months I have been wearing my chastity cage almost 24/7. Almost because sometime she forgets to lock me back in after we have sex and in the morning I leave for work without it. She has said to me that she doesn't want me to pressure her to lock me so when she forgets I can't ask for it. But most of the time, she has me putted back in my cage when she gets home. But I do masturbate when not caged.

Lately things got better since she is more strict with me. In the past week, she has me locked 24/7. We have sex even more then before, about two time a week. And since I have been wearing my cage, I have orgasmes every time and its amazing. She is also very happy that she as no work to do at home and she can just relax after her work. Something I also really like is that she is demanding more things from me, like massages and special dinner. I also started for the past month to open the house door when she arrives and take all the bags she holds. I then remove her shoes and ask if she needs a feet massage since she works all day in heels.

I'm sure I'm not the only one that when you wear a chastity cage 24/7 you need to think about other thing than sex. So now I almost never watch porn and I have more energy, and my life is more organized. I also feel more happy and love my wife more everyday.

Anyway, this is what is going on right now.

[vinylia]

This week was very good with my wife. Last time I have been out of my cage was Saterday Sept 26th. So now its been 6 days straight without coming. I feel great wearing it for that long but I'm very horny. I played with my self a few times but had to stop since it was to painful. Instead of thinking about sex I do house work. But for my wife not having sex for a week doesn't happen often since she is always in need. So on Thursday this week, I have found her dildo beside our bed. I don't remember the last time she used it. So now I understand why she did not need me this week.

A few time this week my wife played with me and I think that she starting to enjoy seeing me trying to get hard in my cage. And she made a few comments about how happy she is with me making her life easier with what I do at home. Also what I find hard sometimes about wearing my cage is that she is always dressed sexy for work and when I see her I get hard every time. Her tight skirts with her high heels makes me go crazy. Yesterday she was out with friends at a bar after work and I wish I was there to see All the looks she got. She had on a sexy leather dress with ankle boots. I thought this was abit over the top for work but she likes the attention she gets.

Today my wife his working so I'm alone at home doing all the weekend chores. The cage is comfortable and I can't wait for her to be back.

[vinylia]

So its now been 2 weeks since my last posting and here is the update.

My wife is more and more in to our female leed relationship and having me controlled. I'm getting stressed since she doesn't hide at all her dominance over me. Last weekend we had friends over for dinner and had been wearing my cage for 2 long, very long weeks. In front of our friends, she was giving me orders and that made me embarrassed but I still did everything she asked. And every time she passed close to me she made sure to give a slap on my cage and I was so scared that someone was going to notice. At the end of the night, she was well drunk and I was hoping that the night was going to end since I was getting scared that she was going to do something bad. The only thing that she did was to play with the key right in front of her friend. I was hoping that he did not asked what was the key for. Luckily he did not.

So now I have been in chastity for the past 3 weeks and I'm going crazy. My wife seems to use more and more her toys to pleasure her self and I did not expect that. To be honest, I thought that she was going to want to have sex with me more often.

Tonight I think for the first time I will talk to her about having a small break. Will see how this goes.

I want her to keep me in chastity but I find it very hard not to be able to have sex or to masturbate for so long. Also my hard on at night are painful and it doesn't help that I'm horny as hell.

I have promised her that I was never going to complain.

[Petey]

Interesting story and progression with your wife. How did the talk go?

[vinylia]

So its been two weeks already. Time goes so fast.

To answer your question Petey, yes I have talked to my wife on the 18th and she refused to remove my cage and she told me that she does not want to have to tell me again that this was my idea. She also said that she is proud of me since I have been the best husband and that She love it that I take care of everything at home and that I was right that the cage was going to make me more focus. And that is why it will stay on. So I guess I got my self in this so this is what it is. The next night, she finally unlocked me and we had the greatest sex ever. I almost cried since it was so intense when I came in her. I stayed unlocked for 24 hours and then she putted the cage back on. It was nice to have that break.

I have now been locked since October 20th and its not to bad. I still have erection at night but when I do I put some cold water on my cock. I still wish I could masturbate but I try to think about other things. Its hard!

Last weekend (October 24th), my wife went out with some friends to a bar. She does go to this place almost every month. I'm definitely not a jealous guy since my wife is nice looking and loves to wear sexy clothes at work and of course when she goes out. She gets many looks and I'm used to that. To be honest, it turns me on when men flirt with her. So last weekend when she was out, one of her friend posted pics of the night wile there and noticed that a guy I know was there. This guy flirted all the time with her and she had admitted this to me. So when I saw a photo of him with his hand on my wife leg, I texted her and she only replied "dont worry, I'm not going to show him the key...". I was so hard in my cage. I love how she flirts.

Anyway, I'm getting used to be wearing my cage 24/7. I feel that it's becoming part of me and that its there to stay.

[vinylia]

So my journey continues.

I think that the scariest part of being in chastity is that my wife is getting more and more comfortable with it.

So many things happen in the past two weeks.

I'm caged since October 20th and I'm going through some many emotions. Since my last discussion with my wife about being unlocked I do not ask for it anymore. I saw that she was not happy about me asking and even saw that she might be frustrated about me questioning my decision about being in chastity. So since this was my idea and that I love the way she is becoming a wonderful dominating wife, I will keep all my complaining to my self.

As mentioned before, I thought that my wife was going to want to have sex with me like before but she doesn't. She seems to have discovered that she gets better orgasmes when she uses her vibrator or other things... My wife has an historic of cheating and since we are together she has admitted that she cheated on me once at the beginning of our relationship. So now I'm wondering if she is seeing an other man. Like I mentioned before, I'm not a jealous men but I would like to know if my wife is cheating.

A week ago I have ask her if I could at least ejaculate since my balls are huge and swallowed and she said yes. So I thought that I was going to be unlocked but no. She tried to masturbate me wile wearing my cage. It was abit painful but I did not tell her. I almost came. The next day she tried again and It worked. I came so much but the feeling was not like before. It almost felt like a fake orgasme since I came but did not feel like I did. It felt so weird but felt good still. Anyway, I hope she will do this every week.

One last huge thing that happen. My wife has admited to me that she has told her best friend about me living in chastity. She has told her a week after the beginning. But she just told me that this week. So I saw her best friend a few times and did not know that she knew. I'm so embarrassed! I ask my wife how her best friend reacted. She said that she laughed at first and then asked many questions. But did not get more if about the conversation. Anyway, Its going to be weird when I see her next time.

Life in chastity is not easy, trust me.

[EDAS]

That is wonderful that your wife told a (girl) friend of hers that you are locked up.

[BWiley]

I have enjoyed reading your journal and how your wife and you have progressed. It seems like a normal progression where the wife/KH becomes more comfortable in their position and if there is any dominance in them, it grows and flourishes.
If you are concerned if she is seeing another man, your best option is to just ask her. But think about how you'd feel if she says yes. She also might say no. But if you keep having this question in the back of your mind, it will just fester and that is not a good thing.
As far as her not using you for sex, you could try to show her more attention without expecting release. Whatever you do for her, don't be driven by a hope for release. Do it because you love her and she is your KeyHolder/Wife.
Weekly orgasms aren't doing you any good in my opinion. Personally I have found it takes at least a week if not two for a feeling of submission to return to me. After orgasm it is common for a feeling of lethargy and self centeredness to take over your personality. This hurts your relationship with your wife because she doesn't see any advantage in having you locked up.

Enjoy your journey and it is one I wish I were on!
Thanks for listening,
BW

[vinylia]

That is wonderful that your wife told a (girl) friend of hers that you are locked up.

At first I felt so embarrassed knowing that her best friend knew but now I'm ok with it. I thought about it and it is a part of our lives and before I introduced chastity to my wife I knew that there was a chance of this happening. I saw her friend yesterday and did not see any changes with her. I did feel a bit shy with her but when I realized that I was hard in my cage I felt that its not so bad.

But I don't know if her friend will tell somebody else.